As hard as it is to imagine that everything will run smoothly, and that mum will not be very difficult (considering there will be a stranger living in our home) I have gone ahead and booked a live in carer via the (very good) agency which provides the visiting carers. One session is for a weekend away next month, effectively three days, and two nights, and I will be abroad. The second session for a total of 9 days in October as I'm away for a full week (but in UK this time). I've gone for live in care as there are absolutely no respite places to be had in this part of the south east.
I am really, really worried that I am going to get a call saying "we can't cope, come come", even though the agency says it will all be fine. After a few fairly settled months, mum is now back to paranoia, suspicion and fear, great timing for my holidays! I am going to see her GP soon to discuss meds and maybe add or adjust something to help us through this period.
My instinct is to get on with the holidays - pack my bags, stock up with food, leave instructions/do handover, and just go. If all hell breaks loose at home, then I'll deal with it (but in the meantime will have the reassurance that she has one to one support at home).
Has anyone had any difficult episodes with live in carers? I am assured by the agency they will select someone with suitable experience, but based on the fact that hospitals and day centres have called me in the past to say they can't cope, I have good cause to worry.
I could just cancel the holidays, but I NEED those holidays to recharge and try to carry on at home, for just a little longer ....
Any views?
I am really, really worried that I am going to get a call saying "we can't cope, come come", even though the agency says it will all be fine. After a few fairly settled months, mum is now back to paranoia, suspicion and fear, great timing for my holidays! I am going to see her GP soon to discuss meds and maybe add or adjust something to help us through this period.
My instinct is to get on with the holidays - pack my bags, stock up with food, leave instructions/do handover, and just go. If all hell breaks loose at home, then I'll deal with it (but in the meantime will have the reassurance that she has one to one support at home).
Has anyone had any difficult episodes with live in carers? I am assured by the agency they will select someone with suitable experience, but based on the fact that hospitals and day centres have called me in the past to say they can't cope, I have good cause to worry.
I could just cancel the holidays, but I NEED those holidays to recharge and try to carry on at home, for just a little longer ....
Any views?