This is my first post. About six years ago I was concerned with mums memory loss and repeating the same conversations over and over in a short space of time. An appointment was made at the memory clinic, with mums protestations that there was nothing wrong. We saw a very nice professor and chatted for a while and made another appointment for six months time. When we arrived home mum became very angry and stayed that way for weeks, needless to say, we never kept the next appointment. One family member even suggested I'd done the wrong thing. Three years ago it became obvious that mum needed 24hour care...So here I am. Mum slept most of today so I can look forward to being prodded with her walking stick throughout the night if I do manage to fall asleep.
Hoo, Boy, welcome to the Club!
I think our own Carer's Denial is very strong, as the PWD often has peaks and valleys and, at least in the early days, can sometimes seem 100% "normal" and have you asking yourself if you are: 1. Too Critical or 2. Imagining the Problem.
Don't worry. A PWD will make it quite clear that there IS a problem, if there is, eventually. The trick is staying clear-eyed enough to see it when it presents itself. (You have my heartfelt sympathy for what you're now going through, BTW). It's hard : (
On the flip side of the coin, like with your Mother, my Husband was aggravated with having to see a doctor, did not want to go, "but I don't HAVE a problem..." and then, when I finally got him to the first neurologist, he fired him (it's a long story, but it was the right choice). Then, we had to go through a few weeks of him telling me there was nothing wrong, doctors are all in it for the money, they were trying to "trick" him into being sick so they could make a fortune on his medicines and get a free trip to the Bahamas (OK--that part MIGHT be true in the US, LOL). **making a joke here*** But truly, he was very suspicious of everybody's motives & thinking we were conspiring to "make him sick." He also felt the diagnostic tests/steps were "tricks" as well, to make him "dizzy" (he has severe vertigo attacks, at times, & they performed something called an "Epley Maneuver" to induce and then clear the vertigo---it actually frightened him, which made him think it was a "trick.").
Please post more; many here can give specific tips and advice for specific problems. I know others have been there as well. It's trying, it's difficult, but it is what it is.
Glad you're posting!
Willow Tree
P.S. I'm new, too, but now that I have some friends to "talk" to, I can't seem to shut up---Apologies for my long-winded posts, friends : )