hello again probably a little ranty for my first post but I need it
I'm 48 years old currently caring 24/7 for my 75 year old father, I've lived with him and cared for him for 11 years, knee replacements, hernias, cataracts, cancer scare, bit of vascular surgery, touch and go treatment for a ruptured GIST. Seems endless, I don't think I've been 6 months without something.
He is undiagnosed apart from the general consensus that he has dementia. He has referals to the neurology dept and the memory clinic but everything is moving so damned slowly.
The GP said it was age, it went that way for a months until upon seeing a different GP who just couldn't believe that considering the symptoms he hadn't been checked for Alzheimers or Parkinsons
He's been struggling for around 12 months, before that he was just Dad bit ecentric, bit forgetful. And taking into account hti s is the way that his mother went...stubborn as heck.
First big event was 13 months ago, he had a fall followed shortly by what I believe to be a TIA. Considering what I know now, probably a TIA with fall and another a TIA a week later. I took two months off work to care for him and he was back up to scratch, not 100% but he could look after himself and I went back to work.
April 2016 I had a few days off work and he got up at pensioner time, came down stairs, two minutes later he was hanging of the chair, burning headache, numb arms.
By the time the ambulance had got ther he was groggy but on the mend, ECG, BP, blood sugar, oxygen all fine. So we had the first trip to our local hospital.
Five times in six weeks, each time a little more of dad went away and I could almost tell by his sleep pattern that the next event was due.
Three months on, no diagnosis, my Dad has days where he can't get dressed, can't wash, forgets how to turn the TV on, makes tea in the sugar bowl, can't remember simple words like cup, glasses. And regular nights where he can't settle and searches the house for 'papers', money, the two dogs we no longer have.
We spent another 10 hours in A&E on Friday, stroke like symptoms, scans, x-rays, bloods. One very frightened old man who thought he was going to die.
In between sleeping like a baby and telling the doctor that he was dying from cancer: of the eye. God help me. Yes he has dementia.
Yes this 'event' has been the one, he essentially slept it off, he went to sleep every time my back was turned and for three days (whilst he wasn't sleeping) he was my Dad again.
Until yesterday, woke up early, said good morning, had a wash......and put his clothes on backwards. Gone again.
Anyway, far too long a first post. thanks for reading this far.
I'm 48 years old currently caring 24/7 for my 75 year old father, I've lived with him and cared for him for 11 years, knee replacements, hernias, cataracts, cancer scare, bit of vascular surgery, touch and go treatment for a ruptured GIST. Seems endless, I don't think I've been 6 months without something.
He is undiagnosed apart from the general consensus that he has dementia. He has referals to the neurology dept and the memory clinic but everything is moving so damned slowly.
The GP said it was age, it went that way for a months until upon seeing a different GP who just couldn't believe that considering the symptoms he hadn't been checked for Alzheimers or Parkinsons
He's been struggling for around 12 months, before that he was just Dad bit ecentric, bit forgetful. And taking into account hti s is the way that his mother went...stubborn as heck.
First big event was 13 months ago, he had a fall followed shortly by what I believe to be a TIA. Considering what I know now, probably a TIA with fall and another a TIA a week later. I took two months off work to care for him and he was back up to scratch, not 100% but he could look after himself and I went back to work.
April 2016 I had a few days off work and he got up at pensioner time, came down stairs, two minutes later he was hanging of the chair, burning headache, numb arms.
By the time the ambulance had got ther he was groggy but on the mend, ECG, BP, blood sugar, oxygen all fine. So we had the first trip to our local hospital.
Five times in six weeks, each time a little more of dad went away and I could almost tell by his sleep pattern that the next event was due.
Three months on, no diagnosis, my Dad has days where he can't get dressed, can't wash, forgets how to turn the TV on, makes tea in the sugar bowl, can't remember simple words like cup, glasses. And regular nights where he can't settle and searches the house for 'papers', money, the two dogs we no longer have.
We spent another 10 hours in A&E on Friday, stroke like symptoms, scans, x-rays, bloods. One very frightened old man who thought he was going to die.
In between sleeping like a baby and telling the doctor that he was dying from cancer: of the eye. God help me. Yes he has dementia.
Yes this 'event' has been the one, he essentially slept it off, he went to sleep every time my back was turned and for three days (whilst he wasn't sleeping) he was my Dad again.
Until yesterday, woke up early, said good morning, had a wash......and put his clothes on backwards. Gone again.
Anyway, far too long a first post. thanks for reading this far.