My OH has only just started being noticably 'different' tho he was diagnosed two years ago. He has trouble with connecting words with things, so he can never see something if I say 'It's by the kettle' etc, and is constantly losing things. He also is either going very deaf or having trouble connecting what I say with concepts - I think he just hears the sound but can't make sense of it unless I speak very slowly and ultra clearly.
In May we went on a small holiday with some friends, three days in a nice hotel in France with some wine tasting and nice meals - formerly his FAVOURITE thing. After two days he said 'When are we going home, I'm bored' I was very shocked as this had always been his really ideal way to spend time. We were then planning to move to another hotel by the sea, where we would have pottered about, enjoyed the hotel which was bang on the sea, done a bit of shopping etc etc. he seemed so grumpy that I (perhaps foolishly) siad 'If you're really unhappy, would you like to go home early ?' and he said 'yes' and cheered up markedly. We lost quite a bit of money as got charged for a night in the hotel which we weren't there for and had to pay for a more expensive Tunnel time. I was really unhappy, but he didn't notice, of course, and said 'Well there's so much to do at home' (there wasn't)
Now (to the point of this question - sorry) some time ago I booked us 10 days at a hotel in Mallorca in Sept - nice hotel, we've been before, but very small, quiet and peaceful. last time we just sat by the pool, read, swam, chatted to other guests. It was extremely soothing and relaxing, though the air travel was stressful ( I need a wheelchair/buggy as have bad knees) and the airports noisy and dreadful. I am wondering if I would be better to cancel this holiday (which I can at this stage) or risk a repeat of the French fisaco. We would not be able to come home early as flights etc harder to arrange and much more expensive, and when I tried talking to OH about it he seemed surprised that I mentioned it. But then he didn't really realise how oddly he had behaved in France. I really don't want to waste a lot of money but 10 days in a foreign hotel with him feeling resentful, bored and grumpy and iitching to be at home wouldn't be nice for either of us.
What would you do please, kind people ?
In May we went on a small holiday with some friends, three days in a nice hotel in France with some wine tasting and nice meals - formerly his FAVOURITE thing. After two days he said 'When are we going home, I'm bored' I was very shocked as this had always been his really ideal way to spend time. We were then planning to move to another hotel by the sea, where we would have pottered about, enjoyed the hotel which was bang on the sea, done a bit of shopping etc etc. he seemed so grumpy that I (perhaps foolishly) siad 'If you're really unhappy, would you like to go home early ?' and he said 'yes' and cheered up markedly. We lost quite a bit of money as got charged for a night in the hotel which we weren't there for and had to pay for a more expensive Tunnel time. I was really unhappy, but he didn't notice, of course, and said 'Well there's so much to do at home' (there wasn't)
Now (to the point of this question - sorry) some time ago I booked us 10 days at a hotel in Mallorca in Sept - nice hotel, we've been before, but very small, quiet and peaceful. last time we just sat by the pool, read, swam, chatted to other guests. It was extremely soothing and relaxing, though the air travel was stressful ( I need a wheelchair/buggy as have bad knees) and the airports noisy and dreadful. I am wondering if I would be better to cancel this holiday (which I can at this stage) or risk a repeat of the French fisaco. We would not be able to come home early as flights etc harder to arrange and much more expensive, and when I tried talking to OH about it he seemed surprised that I mentioned it. But then he didn't really realise how oddly he had behaved in France. I really don't want to waste a lot of money but 10 days in a foreign hotel with him feeling resentful, bored and grumpy and iitching to be at home wouldn't be nice for either of us.
What would you do please, kind people ?