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[jikkie]

Went downstairs and found the front door open.... we have two dogs. Luckily there were upstairs in my office with me.

Didn't think too much of it, but now two neighbours have brought my husband home, saying he was lost. Apparently he told them where he lived, but turned the other way... so they were worried and escorted him home.

Not sure what to think. I can hardly lock him in.

He is very unco-operative, always does the opposite to what I ask him, trying to assert his authority in some way I think.

Any suggestions? Thoughts? It is a lovely day here, i think he thought he would just go for a walk, but if the neighbours feel I am neglecting him I am not very happy.

 

[Grannie G]

This was my husband too jikke and it was an impossible situation to resolve. I had to be sure he was supervised at all times.

I couldn`t keep him in but at least if I knew he had gone out I was able to follow him. He got very cross about that and I had to follow at a distance. Many a time when he went out he was switched off and unaware I was following. The times he was aware he shouted at me to go home.

I cannot advise you I can only say how it was with us.

 

[Scarlett123]

Went downstairs and found the front door open.... we have two dogs. Luckily there were upstairs in my office with me.

Didn't think too much of it, but now two neighbours have brought my husband home, saying he was lost. Apparently he told them where he lived, but turned the other way... so they were worried and escorted him home.

Not sure what to think. I can hardly lock him in.

He is very unco-operative, always does the opposite to what I ask him, trying to assert his authority in some way I think.

Any suggestions? Thoughts? It is a lovely day here, i think he thought he would just go for a walk, but if the neighbours feel I am neglecting him I am not very happy.

When this happened with my husband, I contacted Telecare, and they fitted a system, which was the opposite of a burglar alarm - ie, the alarm would go off when the door was opened from inside.

I knew how to over-ride this, but my husband didn't, so that when I took him out, the alarm wasn't activated. At least if he "gives you the slip", you'll be alerted. Regarding what the neighbours think, well, my husband would inform them, in my presence, that I was having affairs with all and sundry, Margaret Thatcher had visited us, (after she died) whilst he was in his pyjamas, and that Pam Ayres belonged to his "club" (the Day Centre).

They were all aware that "he had Alzheimer's", and whether they believed him or not, especially me apparently seducing any and every male around, I don't know. I hope not, but if they did, that's Alzheimer's for you!

 

[Spamar]

When OH went for a walk and got lost, he asked a lady who was gardening how to get back to our village. She got her car out and brought him back. I think he must have frightened himself, cos he limited himself to walking up and down the road after that.

Sorry no real help!

 

[jikkie]

Thank you for the responses.

Actually I think the neighbours were over protective... he did mean to go for a walk, and I am quite happy about that, we live in a pleasant village, good pavements and paths, and as safe as it gets. They told him which way was home, but he wanted to carry on, so they turned him round. He wasn't annoyed tho.

I would rather he said he was going out... but I am quite happy for him to do so. So I think I am jumping ahead rather.

Sorry!

 

[1mindy]

Thank you for the responses.

Actually I think the neighbours were over protective... he did mean to go for a walk, and I am quite happy about that, we live in a pleasant village, good pavements and paths, and as safe as it gets. They told him which way was home, but he wanted to carry on, so they turned him round. He wasn't annoyed tho.

I would rather he said he was going out... but I am quite happy for him to do so. So I think I am jumping ahead rather.

Sorry!

Even though you may think he is OK, keep an eye on him. My husband was OK until the day he got lost and I had to phone the police who found him and brought him home. Things can change rather quickly .

 

[San 'Fairy' Ann]

Even though you may think he is OK, keep an eye on him. My husband was OK until the day he got lost and I had to phone the police who found him and brought him home. Things can change rather quickly .

If I feel like going for a walk it usually means I feel fine but I feel that way because I am at home where things are ok. Once out on said walk anything can happen to change that feeling of wellness. It can be a car horn startling me or someone walking too close to me etc. You cannot control what happens along the way and with no one there to guide them a person can become confused and afraid. The people who brought him home may not have witnessed whatever it was that confused him and just stumbled across him seeming to need help so I think they did the right thing to bring him home safe.