When you just can’t cope any longer, your much loved relative has to move into a CH.. The one you have been looking after, will now be cared for by professional CH, staff. Some may think that henceforth everything will be OK.
Well actually it won’t. life will never be OK. again. Leaving aside the inevitable and crippling feelings of inadequacy and guilt, you will suffer a different and more insidious kind of strain, having swapped physical stress for mental stress.
You visit. Some visits are good and some are very difficult. The difficult visits knock you down. And make no mistake, even the good days take their toll. Keeping a smile on your face come what may, will sometimes take some doing.
You can stop visiting, of course, and probably your relative will not even know. If you stop and think about it, you may conclude that your visits are mainly for your benefit. But you will never be able to accept that they aren’t doing anybody any good. If only for your own peace of mind, not visiting can never be an option.
Life in a CH. is a life apart and can be very distressing. The knowledge that your loved one (I have tried to avoid using that phrase, but…..) is in there 24 hours of each day and, unbelievably, is there for life, breaks your heart.
It’s not OK., there’s no light at the end of this tunnel.
Well actually it won’t. life will never be OK. again. Leaving aside the inevitable and crippling feelings of inadequacy and guilt, you will suffer a different and more insidious kind of strain, having swapped physical stress for mental stress.
You visit. Some visits are good and some are very difficult. The difficult visits knock you down. And make no mistake, even the good days take their toll. Keeping a smile on your face come what may, will sometimes take some doing.
You can stop visiting, of course, and probably your relative will not even know. If you stop and think about it, you may conclude that your visits are mainly for your benefit. But you will never be able to accept that they aren’t doing anybody any good. If only for your own peace of mind, not visiting can never be an option.
Life in a CH. is a life apart and can be very distressing. The knowledge that your loved one (I have tried to avoid using that phrase, but…..) is in there 24 hours of each day and, unbelievably, is there for life, breaks your heart.
It’s not OK., there’s no light at the end of this tunnel.