Some who log in regularly to TP may have seen my posts before. My Mum who has AD lives with me she is 90. I also have a disabled daughter who I have to provide all personal care for. It seemed to me I had a lot on my plate and although I cope, I think very well something has happened now that has knocked me for six.
About 3 weeks ago I went for a routine mammogram. I had not detected any lumps or changes but nevertheless I was recalled to have further tests. Yesterday I had to go of a biopsy and will get the results on 19th May. Because of my caring duties I could not take my husband with me as he was at home caring for my Mum and daughter along with the agency carer. I looked on a breast cancer website and they mention the biopsies as if they are nothing but I found it extremely painful. The whole process took about 40 minutes and if I moved I had to repositioned so the biopsy could be done accurately via a screen and long thing like a skewer. I did have local anaesthetic but it hurt like hell and I went very light headed.
I feel so low. At the moment I am waiting for results and all may be well so I don't want to burden anyone with it apart from my husband but if the tests are positive I don't know how best to proceed. Mum would be capable of understanding but why burden her and also if she forgets and I have to keep going over it That would drive me crazy. When I got told I had arthritis in my foot she refused to believe it was arthritis as I was 'too young' and so simply didn't take it in so every time I limp she asks me 'what's wrong with your foot' and I say it's arthritis and she says your 'too young for arthritis' and so it goes on.
God forbid if I need further treatment I don't think I can go through it with her here. Endlessly repeating questions or looking at me all puppy eyed but offering no practical help or support. And then there's my daughter who cries if I go away just overnight for a break! I have always been strong and coped with their neediness but now I feel so vulnerable because if the tests are positive I will have lots of hospital appts/ treatments etc and need time and space to get my head round it all but in order to do that will have to arrange emergency respite for the two of them and I know how distressed they will be.
About 3 weeks ago I went for a routine mammogram. I had not detected any lumps or changes but nevertheless I was recalled to have further tests. Yesterday I had to go of a biopsy and will get the results on 19th May. Because of my caring duties I could not take my husband with me as he was at home caring for my Mum and daughter along with the agency carer. I looked on a breast cancer website and they mention the biopsies as if they are nothing but I found it extremely painful. The whole process took about 40 minutes and if I moved I had to repositioned so the biopsy could be done accurately via a screen and long thing like a skewer. I did have local anaesthetic but it hurt like hell and I went very light headed.
I feel so low. At the moment I am waiting for results and all may be well so I don't want to burden anyone with it apart from my husband but if the tests are positive I don't know how best to proceed. Mum would be capable of understanding but why burden her and also if she forgets and I have to keep going over it That would drive me crazy. When I got told I had arthritis in my foot she refused to believe it was arthritis as I was 'too young' and so simply didn't take it in so every time I limp she asks me 'what's wrong with your foot' and I say it's arthritis and she says your 'too young for arthritis' and so it goes on.
God forbid if I need further treatment I don't think I can go through it with her here. Endlessly repeating questions or looking at me all puppy eyed but offering no practical help or support. And then there's my daughter who cries if I go away just overnight for a break! I have always been strong and coped with their neediness but now I feel so vulnerable because if the tests are positive I will have lots of hospital appts/ treatments etc and need time and space to get my head round it all but in order to do that will have to arrange emergency respite for the two of them and I know how distressed they will be.