My mom is 77, she has vascular dementia and will not accept that she has any issues with her memory. She asserts she is fine.
Last year she had bowel cancer which resulted in her having a stoma. Post surgery she has been given the all clear which was great news. She has coped so well with her stoma but one battle we are losing is on her retaining the information about what she can eat and what she cant. I have written it all down on a large whiteboard for her which is in the kitchen. My dad is her main carer but he has been in and out of hospital himself so its been difficult. She insists on eating "greens" asparagus, green beans, cabbage, etc, everything she shouldnt this is very bad when you have a stoma and results in constant leeks. We constantly have the same conversation and the information wont stick due to her dementia.
She has never really been a big drinker but now she keeps going to the local tesco and buying brandy and beer and she has started to drink in the evenings and exhibits the sundowning behaviour that I have read about on this site. She gets very agitated and very aggressive. She insists she's not drinking and she is fine and has no problems with her stoma which is wrong - she just forgets. This evening because of poor food choices and alcohol she has used five stoma bags and is rapidly running out....
We have no help with mom's dementia at all. The GP doesnt seem to want to know, we are trying to cope with her on our own but my dad is struggling and he is with her more than anyone (I work full-time and work long hours). The stoma nurse is great but has no experience with dementia patients so cannot give any suitable advice.
Is there any support at all for carers who can give advice and support in how to cope with someone with dementia we are desperate for help but cant seem to get any and dont know whats out there.... Thank you.
Last year she had bowel cancer which resulted in her having a stoma. Post surgery she has been given the all clear which was great news. She has coped so well with her stoma but one battle we are losing is on her retaining the information about what she can eat and what she cant. I have written it all down on a large whiteboard for her which is in the kitchen. My dad is her main carer but he has been in and out of hospital himself so its been difficult. She insists on eating "greens" asparagus, green beans, cabbage, etc, everything she shouldnt this is very bad when you have a stoma and results in constant leeks. We constantly have the same conversation and the information wont stick due to her dementia.
She has never really been a big drinker but now she keeps going to the local tesco and buying brandy and beer and she has started to drink in the evenings and exhibits the sundowning behaviour that I have read about on this site. She gets very agitated and very aggressive. She insists she's not drinking and she is fine and has no problems with her stoma which is wrong - she just forgets. This evening because of poor food choices and alcohol she has used five stoma bags and is rapidly running out....
We have no help with mom's dementia at all. The GP doesnt seem to want to know, we are trying to cope with her on our own but my dad is struggling and he is with her more than anyone (I work full-time and work long hours). The stoma nurse is great but has no experience with dementia patients so cannot give any suitable advice.
Is there any support at all for carers who can give advice and support in how to cope with someone with dementia we are desperate for help but cant seem to get any and dont know whats out there.... Thank you.