I am new here.My brother and myself are carers for my dad. My mum and dad were living in London where my other brother lived. By the time my brother took him to doctor for diagnosis, the dementia had progressed rapidly and he was told medication woud not help at all. This was about three and half years ago . He could do everything himself. My parents were living quite far away from my brothers house so Idecided to move them my local town. They are now living with my brother. He has got progressively worst. He onlg retains information for few seconds and asking same questions all the time. He no longer can do things by himself. The thing is in his normal life he was the gentlest person i know. Now he is very angry and will refuse to let us do things for him. He swears at ths slightest thing that upsets him. He used to go to day centre for few hours a day but now they say say can not accomodate him as he is too much hard work. I find myself getting angry when he refuses to let us do thing for him specially where hygene is concerned. Getting him to have a change of clothes or a shower is just hard work . You just keep trying again and again. Its so frustrating. Although i find it very hard i could not put him into care. I would just feel so guilty. I can his see anguish and it just upsets me so much. I thought i would share my feeling to lighten my stress.