This is my first time on the forum, my mum is Middle to late stages of dementia and due to my Dad of 95 being taken ill in September ( he has been my mums carer since 2011 when she was first diagnosed with dementia, she is now 85) she had to go into respite care, while she was in respite care we where advised that it was not safe for Mum to go home for her or for my Dad, deep down I knew this but it was easier having the decision made for us. She was in respite until 21st November and detiriated a lot, she was not eating and drinking and the only option was for her to be admitted to hospital as the care homes we had chosen had no beds which is why she was in respite for so long all this time they were changing her medication as she was very agitated and aggressive. After two weeks in hospital she got a bed in my first choice care home which was three weeks ago, she is very unsettled,agitated and aggressive, every time I go in she wants me to take her home and says she hates it there, she says it is all my fault, it is so hard I just want her to be happy but don't know what to do, the last four months have been so upsetting, I miss my mum so much, she didn't even know it was Christmas.