William
Sorry confused again
Who did the son/daughter refuse to pay?
Hi Lyn
The son was with me when I was told the bungalow would have to be sold.
I just refused to let that happen.
The next thing that was said social funding could be provided but there was no home at the LA usual rate which would take my step mother and myself and the son would need to find a top up of £1,000 per month between us.
I just said I am not paying as my step mother was nothing to do with me and the son said he will not pay.
The social worker then asked us what was my step mother going to do if we refused to pay and said she could be let out and she could kill a child in view of her great strength. She said if that happened we would be responsible.
We just said we are not paying and walked out knowing she was in a safe place and the hospital could not turn her out.
We also said we would involve a solicitor.
Later that day we had a call and we were asked to return to the hospital the next morning. I asked if we needed a solicitor but the person said come in and hear what they had to say and get a solicitor involved if we were not satisfied.
We saw the CHC nurse and she said the matter had been re considered and CHC funding was being granted for 3 months and it would then be reviewed.
When we visited that evening there was a form by the bed addressed to me in which I was agreeing to pay the care fees if NHS funding was not approved at any time.
I just telephoned the number stated and said I am not signing that form as my step mother was not a relative as far as I was concerned and we heard nothing else.
Several homes came to assess my step mother for about 3 further weeks but none would take her.
During those 3 weeks I was approached by the social worker several times saying it was wrong the NHS should pay as I had a house and a bungalow.
A home was then found but we were then advised a special meeting would have to take place and this could not take happen for 2 weeks and we were told the room could be lost if we waited for the meeting to take place but she could go immediately if we paid.
Again I refused to pay.
Three days later we had a call saying she was being sent to the home that morning.
I went to the hospital to collect her things and to see her on to the hospital ambulance and the son went to the home.
As it happened I got there about 5 minutes before the ambulance and went to put her property in the room.
We were given a list of her needs in the home and she had her priority needs satisfied by that evening.
Over the week we got her non priority items.
We finally got her a drinks fridge and TV and was about to take them to the home a week later which were low priority / optional items on the list.
Sadly we then had a call saying she was ill and they had dialled 999 but asked us to not set out as she could have been taken to 1 of 3 hospitals.
When we knew the hospital she was going to we went there.
Sadly my step mother passed away in hospital later that day and the TV fridge were still in my car.
William