I am new to this forum and this is my first post, so please excuse me as I try to ask my questions without going on too much.... My mum is in a nursing home where she has been for the last 4 years after having a stroke. She has vascular dementia and now cannot talk, walk, is incontinent, has to be fed her food (creamed fortified diet) and does not really know me anymore. She sits in her chair ( has to be supported as can lean too much) and just looks around in to space (glazed look) and also seems to sleep a lot too. I have been told that this is last/final stage vascular dementia but get told different things about it eg: mum could go on for years like this or not?? I feel her quality of life is no longer and how long can you stay like that? She seems to be drinking and eating ok at moment (fed by care assistants) but I have noticed her coughing after every drink swallow or tiny piece biscuit when I feed her? Just feel confused and would like to see if anybody could give me a little info or advice if you are also experiencing this or had been. Thanks x