Does anyone else have experience of this? The worse my mother (who still lives on her own but is always in a bit of a state) seems to get, the more my own family back off and leave me to her. She has no friends now having alienated friends and family but of course can't remember what has happened and complains of being lonely all the time, which indeed she is.There's no point in telling her they just don't like her - it would seem a bit cruel. She probably wouldn't remember even if they did visit. I feel by the end of this I will be in a similar situation with no friends and a family that really aren't bothered with me any more either, as I never have time for them. Well thats not quite true but its pretty hard to fit it all in. I can't say I blame them - maybe if I was given half a chance I too would always have something better to do than pander to her. Unfortunately it seems I have been chosen as the sacrificial lamb - their lives are all too important with jobs, mortgages, kids etc - and of course they have all moved away so can't possibly help anyway. They don't want her to visit as she is a liability and spoils the "fun" by getting nasty, so I have to lie to her and say I don't see them either. Also why would I want to spoil things for them by asking for help they don't want to give or asking them to visit if they don't want to. I guess they had an inkling of what was to come by all moving away! Actually they can all justify how they are by saying I shouldn't do it and I should just leave her to it and only visit once a week max, and indeed probably think I am not giving them all the attention they deserve, she has always been demanding and trained me well. It just seems so cruel to leave a lonely old woman to it though and she would deteriorate if I just left her I am sure. But why does the choice have to be so hard? I feel I am having to chose between my mum or my family and I love my family but feel let down and don't want to think bad things of any of them. Yet in the back of my mind lurks that horrible thought that they will all be present if ever a will was being read. I think I am having a bad day but it is a worry, or maybe the paranoia is setting in and I am headed the same way as her. Anyway maybe writing this down will help - just wondered if anyone else ever feels this way?