It's some years since I had direct involvement with dementia - cared for my mother who died of dementia- so I don't usually comment, although I look in most days. I completely agree with Canary. I feel that as long as we sanitize the reality of dementia there will never be the research or funding that is so needed. It goes beyond research too. Proper funding to help those with dementia and their carers will never be achieved whilst this illness is portrayed as a social problem. The many contributors on this forum tell of the lack of understanding from friends and family. I would also add CCGs, GPs, hospital staff, social workers and care agencies, those people who SHOULD know. There needs to be much more real information and education in the general domain, as there is with cancer, so that the reality of dementia is acknowledged as the terminal illness it is and some of the horrors revealed. It used to be that the word cancer was never spoken, it was the Big C or some other euphemism. Nowadays we discuss it much more freely. We see it depicted in dramas and documentaries on mainstream tv, we see fundraising advertisements of patients receiving treatment. I think accepting the truth of dementia is still a long way from this but we have to start being honest about it as distressing to some that may be. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, that is not my intention. I just feel really despondent when I read the comments on this wonderful, supportive forum and realise that nothing has changed since I was in my caring role more than 10 years ago.