Hi All. I'm new here.
My Mum has mixed dementia (AD and Vascular). Diagnosis April 21 but showing signs for well over 3 years before. She and Dad lived in West Wales for 3 years and I in Cardiff (they had prev lived in Cardiff all their lives).
Dad passed away in Dec 20 following a very short but harsh Cancer diagnosis. During his diagnosis, he decided to move he and Mum back to the village in Cardiff to a Retirement Flat but passed away. Mum has moved to said flat which is at least 40 mins away from me and there is no other family here and she has only two friends and refuses to tell anyone about her diagnosis.
Anyway!! She STILL has her drivers licence. The DVLA were informed in July/Aug last year but have still yet do anything and I can't get hold of them on the phone. The memory team have told me that I must stop her driving as she scored 0 out of 5 on the reaction test of the last memory test. She gets very upset at the mention of not driving (as she feels she is okay).
I am the ONLY one who knows how bad her dementia is as she hides it well and I have to call her at least 3 times a day to ensure that she hasn't made any mistakes during her day(not with driving but calls etc). She completely trusts me and I am so concerned that she will hate me if it is me that takes away her freedom.
Also, she refuses to move closer to me as she wants to be close to where Dad and her lived previously.
Help! Any advice??
My Mum has mixed dementia (AD and Vascular). Diagnosis April 21 but showing signs for well over 3 years before. She and Dad lived in West Wales for 3 years and I in Cardiff (they had prev lived in Cardiff all their lives).
Dad passed away in Dec 20 following a very short but harsh Cancer diagnosis. During his diagnosis, he decided to move he and Mum back to the village in Cardiff to a Retirement Flat but passed away. Mum has moved to said flat which is at least 40 mins away from me and there is no other family here and she has only two friends and refuses to tell anyone about her diagnosis.
Anyway!! She STILL has her drivers licence. The DVLA were informed in July/Aug last year but have still yet do anything and I can't get hold of them on the phone. The memory team have told me that I must stop her driving as she scored 0 out of 5 on the reaction test of the last memory test. She gets very upset at the mention of not driving (as she feels she is okay).
I am the ONLY one who knows how bad her dementia is as she hides it well and I have to call her at least 3 times a day to ensure that she hasn't made any mistakes during her day(not with driving but calls etc). She completely trusts me and I am so concerned that she will hate me if it is me that takes away her freedom.
Also, she refuses to move closer to me as she wants to be close to where Dad and her lived previously.
Help! Any advice??