Hi everyone.
This is my first post so please be gentle.
I'm a 43 year old male from Gtr Manchester.
Our youngest daughter passed away suddenly and unexpectedly in July 2016, she was 12 years old whilst we were in a family holiday in the UK.
It was utterly devastating and we are still having issues with mental health some 7 or 8 years later.
Prior to that event however I really don't recall having any major concerns over my memory.
Since that event I have serious concerns.
A little family history......
My Nan who recently passed away suffered with Alzheimer's and Schizophrenia for the last 10 years or so if her life.
My Mum has been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's 7 years ago.
Since our daughter passed away both myself and my Wife have suffered with severe mental health issues, and we have both been diagnosed with PTSD.
Prior to the lockdowns I was receiving help in the form of EMDR therapy for mental health, specifically PTSD. This stopped when lockdown started and following the end of lockdown restrictions our local NHS is no longer able to provide this as they have no trained therapists.
I've not had any support from the NHS since April 2020.
My Concerns.
Shortly after my daughter's passing, around the time when I went back to work, I started to notice that I was having difficulty remembering things at work, especially people's names.
I put this down to having been off work for 4 months, but things never got better.
Now things are worse. I have to constantly write things down. I have post-it notes all over my desk with reminders, I also have alarms set on my phone to remind me to take medications and tell me which ones to take.
I'm forgetting things related to my job (software developer) like basic code functions etc. Things I've done in the past without second thought now take much longer as I have to look stuff up.
I'm prescribed Fentanyl patches for a long term chronic pain condition which is degenerative, and every year when we buy a calendar/diary I have to plot out the 3 day cycle of the patches to prompt me to change them at the right time.
People's names are the worst thing for me to remember, even people I speak to and work with on a regular basis. It's really embarrassing not remembering people's names, or calling someone by the wrong name.
Another new development in the last 6 months is when playing guitar.
Songs I've played for years, decades, I'm forgetting notes/chords, forgetting lyrics.
It now takes 3 or 4 times as long to learn new songs as I struggle to remember chord/note sequences.
Another thing I've noticed with this is that I'm losing melody. I.e. when I'm playing I'm not playing in time or to the correct melody or correct timing or strumming pattern.
Again, a lot of these songs I've played for 20 or 30 years and until recently I've never had a problem.
I have spoken to medical health professionals both in the NHS and privately, but many of them simply write off my concerns as being linked to my mental health issues.
The explanation is that my mind is struggling to file things away correctly because of the trauma of our daughter's sudden death, or is simply not creating the memory at all.
I joined this group to ask this question and get other people's opinions. Opinions from those who suffer with, or deal with the consequences of this awful disease.
I'm not seeking a diagnosis from this group,but an understanding of what the opinions are from people with experience, so I can go back to the NHS and get further with them than I have been able to in the past.
A couple of years ago, a mental health therapist I was seeing privately, who also deals with Alzheimer's/Dementia patients sat down with me and performed a test. It involved a number of memory based questions.
I scored quite low, and the therapist said that with those scores he would normally recommend seeing a specialist. However, he again attributed this as being more linked to the issues with mental health/PTSD than an issue with Alzheimer's/dementia.
Could I please ask for people's thoughts?
Thank you all for taking the time to read.
This is my first post so please be gentle.
I'm a 43 year old male from Gtr Manchester.
Our youngest daughter passed away suddenly and unexpectedly in July 2016, she was 12 years old whilst we were in a family holiday in the UK.
It was utterly devastating and we are still having issues with mental health some 7 or 8 years later.
Prior to that event however I really don't recall having any major concerns over my memory.
Since that event I have serious concerns.
A little family history......
My Nan who recently passed away suffered with Alzheimer's and Schizophrenia for the last 10 years or so if her life.
My Mum has been diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's 7 years ago.
Since our daughter passed away both myself and my Wife have suffered with severe mental health issues, and we have both been diagnosed with PTSD.
Prior to the lockdowns I was receiving help in the form of EMDR therapy for mental health, specifically PTSD. This stopped when lockdown started and following the end of lockdown restrictions our local NHS is no longer able to provide this as they have no trained therapists.
I've not had any support from the NHS since April 2020.
My Concerns.
Shortly after my daughter's passing, around the time when I went back to work, I started to notice that I was having difficulty remembering things at work, especially people's names.
I put this down to having been off work for 4 months, but things never got better.
Now things are worse. I have to constantly write things down. I have post-it notes all over my desk with reminders, I also have alarms set on my phone to remind me to take medications and tell me which ones to take.
I'm forgetting things related to my job (software developer) like basic code functions etc. Things I've done in the past without second thought now take much longer as I have to look stuff up.
I'm prescribed Fentanyl patches for a long term chronic pain condition which is degenerative, and every year when we buy a calendar/diary I have to plot out the 3 day cycle of the patches to prompt me to change them at the right time.
People's names are the worst thing for me to remember, even people I speak to and work with on a regular basis. It's really embarrassing not remembering people's names, or calling someone by the wrong name.
Another new development in the last 6 months is when playing guitar.
Songs I've played for years, decades, I'm forgetting notes/chords, forgetting lyrics.
It now takes 3 or 4 times as long to learn new songs as I struggle to remember chord/note sequences.
Another thing I've noticed with this is that I'm losing melody. I.e. when I'm playing I'm not playing in time or to the correct melody or correct timing or strumming pattern.
Again, a lot of these songs I've played for 20 or 30 years and until recently I've never had a problem.
I have spoken to medical health professionals both in the NHS and privately, but many of them simply write off my concerns as being linked to my mental health issues.
The explanation is that my mind is struggling to file things away correctly because of the trauma of our daughter's sudden death, or is simply not creating the memory at all.
I joined this group to ask this question and get other people's opinions. Opinions from those who suffer with, or deal with the consequences of this awful disease.
I'm not seeking a diagnosis from this group,but an understanding of what the opinions are from people with experience, so I can go back to the NHS and get further with them than I have been able to in the past.
A couple of years ago, a mental health therapist I was seeing privately, who also deals with Alzheimer's/Dementia patients sat down with me and performed a test. It involved a number of memory based questions.
I scored quite low, and the therapist said that with those scores he would normally recommend seeing a specialist. However, he again attributed this as being more linked to the issues with mental health/PTSD than an issue with Alzheimer's/dementia.
Could I please ask for people's thoughts?
Thank you all for taking the time to read.