When OH was in hospital last year, I was told he was double incontinent. I was given a couple of packs of pull-ups and left to get on with it. Once he was home and settled, things improved. There was still accidents but few and far between and I was managing quite well.
Over the past 2-3 days, thing have escalated to the point where I had to change the bed at 3 am then at 5 am discovered a huge leak all over the bed. I am slightly ashamed to say I sat on the floor and shed a few tears. OH was very upset. He had not accepted that he had any problems and didn't understand what the purpose of the pull-ups are or why he needed them. This morning, no amount of 'love-lies' would have helped. He was totally devastated and it took me an hour to convince him that everything would be OK and that I am still here for him.
I rang the GP this morning for a referral to the incontinence nurse and was told a message had been sent to the GP (who only works two days per week) who would write to me to acknowledge the refferal and let me know how long I would have to wait. I see this taking weeks or months.
I am currently feeling very let down by the system (not the first time) and wondering how they ever help carers. I was told I may have to visit the hospital which means OH will be with me and will probably deny everything. How does the referral usually work and will it help much?
Over the past 2-3 days, thing have escalated to the point where I had to change the bed at 3 am then at 5 am discovered a huge leak all over the bed. I am slightly ashamed to say I sat on the floor and shed a few tears. OH was very upset. He had not accepted that he had any problems and didn't understand what the purpose of the pull-ups are or why he needed them. This morning, no amount of 'love-lies' would have helped. He was totally devastated and it took me an hour to convince him that everything would be OK and that I am still here for him.
I rang the GP this morning for a referral to the incontinence nurse and was told a message had been sent to the GP (who only works two days per week) who would write to me to acknowledge the refferal and let me know how long I would have to wait. I see this taking weeks or months.
I am currently feeling very let down by the system (not the first time) and wondering how they ever help carers. I was told I may have to visit the hospital which means OH will be with me and will probably deny everything. How does the referral usually work and will it help much?