My husband who is 83 years old has Alzheimers and I have been looking after him for 3 years. All our children leave sbroad so it has just been me most of the time. In the last month he has deteriorated rapidly. He doesn’t recognise our home, he thinks I am part of his caring team and he just wants to go home to where he was born and be with to his Mum and Dad. He doesn’t know they have died. His mobility is really bad, he cannot do anything for himself and his anxiety and agitation is getting worse.He is up and down every night and even with a carer I have taken the decision, with help from our children, to put him into a care home as mentally and physically I can’t cope anymore.
I know it is the best for both of us so why do I feel so guilty and feel I am abandoning him.
Do other people have these feelings and how do you cope with them.
I know it is the best for both of us so why do I feel so guilty and feel I am abandoning him.
Do other people have these feelings and how do you cope with them.