Hi my name is Tony I have written before some months back and really appreciated the help but things have progressed I with my sister and a outside carer look after my mum who is 92 years old and has just been diagnosed with vascular dementia,she also suffers with sciatica.
We have the carer two days a week which is a god send as she is brilliant the main issue we have is mum will not accept help always says she wants to be alone ,she needs and gets 24 hour care between the 3 of us but as one of us comes in to take over we have to go through a whole routine of explaining why she has to have us their all the time and it can take hours for her to accept the situation.
The mood swings can be really bad and upsetting for her and the three of us .
She can really pick on my sister or the carer I she does the same about me to them.
We were in a farely good routine but now we are going backwards.
Any help would be much appreciated.
We have the carer two days a week which is a god send as she is brilliant the main issue we have is mum will not accept help always says she wants to be alone ,she needs and gets 24 hour care between the 3 of us but as one of us comes in to take over we have to go through a whole routine of explaining why she has to have us their all the time and it can take hours for her to accept the situation.
The mood swings can be really bad and upsetting for her and the three of us .
She can really pick on my sister or the carer I she does the same about me to them.
We were in a farely good routine but now we are going backwards.
Any help would be much appreciated.