Both my parents suffered from dementia for years and sadly we recently lost my mother. They were both still living together at home.
My father never mentions her, ever, not by name, not in reference to anything they ever did even though they were married for over 65 years. On the day she died he was able to say goodbye to her and he did understand that she had died.
In the first few days afterwards he was surprisingly cheerful and chatty, possibly because he was finally benefitting from a proper night's sleep.
Should I try to discuss my mother with him? Should I arrange bereavement counselling? Or should we just leave things as they are? He does not seem to be unhappy. He is eating, drinking and sleeping well, and manages to engage in conversation (better on some days than others).
Thank you for any advice
My father never mentions her, ever, not by name, not in reference to anything they ever did even though they were married for over 65 years. On the day she died he was able to say goodbye to her and he did understand that she had died.
In the first few days afterwards he was surprisingly cheerful and chatty, possibly because he was finally benefitting from a proper night's sleep.
Should I try to discuss my mother with him? Should I arrange bereavement counselling? Or should we just leave things as they are? He does not seem to be unhappy. He is eating, drinking and sleeping well, and manages to engage in conversation (better on some days than others).
Thank you for any advice