Hi,
I hope everyone is having a pleasant weekend. I'm a 40 something dad to a couple of young babies which keeps me pretty occupied as you can imagine. Unfortunately my partners mother was also recently diagnosed with alzeimers. She was showing signs for quite a while but the stress of lock down and moving house seems to have accelerated the trend. She's now finding it fairly difficult to do the most basic tasks like getting ready in the morning and unfortunately loses her way a fair bit and needs quite a lot of attention.
The challenge is that her life partner is finding the whole situation extremely stressful. I can imagine it must be extremely challenging but unfortunately he also doesn't have a huge amount of patience and snaps at her routinely. Apparently she has also hit him several times in the last few months.
We've tried to suggest that he gets some help but apparently he doesn't want to pay the cost of the care. It's putting enormous stress on my partner who constantly gets really frightening messages about what's happening and it routinely brings her to tears. She's also obviousy impacted when the little ones come to her as well which I feel the pain from at times because they're just too young to understand what's going on...
We'd go over to see them but they're 1hr 30 mins away in the car on a good run and that's quite a lot of driving stress on my partner to do a round trip and staying over just isn't a welcome or nice environment for her or the kids at times when her mom isn't doing well.
We're both worried about where this is going to end but with my partners dad not wanting to take any action but also being utterly overloaded with stress I'm at a complete loss for what we can do...
I'd really appreciate some advice and I'm really hoping someone has been in a similar situation and has found a way out..
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Kind Regards
I hope everyone is having a pleasant weekend. I'm a 40 something dad to a couple of young babies which keeps me pretty occupied as you can imagine. Unfortunately my partners mother was also recently diagnosed with alzeimers. She was showing signs for quite a while but the stress of lock down and moving house seems to have accelerated the trend. She's now finding it fairly difficult to do the most basic tasks like getting ready in the morning and unfortunately loses her way a fair bit and needs quite a lot of attention.
The challenge is that her life partner is finding the whole situation extremely stressful. I can imagine it must be extremely challenging but unfortunately he also doesn't have a huge amount of patience and snaps at her routinely. Apparently she has also hit him several times in the last few months.
We've tried to suggest that he gets some help but apparently he doesn't want to pay the cost of the care. It's putting enormous stress on my partner who constantly gets really frightening messages about what's happening and it routinely brings her to tears. She's also obviousy impacted when the little ones come to her as well which I feel the pain from at times because they're just too young to understand what's going on...
We'd go over to see them but they're 1hr 30 mins away in the car on a good run and that's quite a lot of driving stress on my partner to do a round trip and staying over just isn't a welcome or nice environment for her or the kids at times when her mom isn't doing well.
We're both worried about where this is going to end but with my partners dad not wanting to take any action but also being utterly overloaded with stress I'm at a complete loss for what we can do...
I'd really appreciate some advice and I'm really hoping someone has been in a similar situation and has found a way out..
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Kind Regards