Hello everyone
Apologies for typos I am on the train typing this on my phone.
I am new to Talking Point. Bit of background I am 32 and have been caring in some form for my mum with vascular dementia since she was diagnosed 4.5 years ago. Mum is now 65 years old.
When she was diagnosed she was living with my Dad in Luton. He sadly passed away in October 2014 suddenly. Five days later I have birth to my son. 2 weeks after giving birth my mum moved in with me and and stayed with my son, partner and I for 9 months I.e. my maternity leave from work.
During this time we cleared out and sold the family home for 30 years of living there and settled her into an assisted living flat with carers 5 minutes from us.
Mum has deteriorated and I'm not sure how long she can stay there but she will remain there for the time being.
I work full time in a demanding job, travel over 3 hours a day, care for my son and visit mum most nights doing things the carers either having done and haven't noticed. They are not dementia trained.
I am exhausted and emotionally drained.
My partner and I have limited support . His mum lives far away and cares for her dad. My brother lives in India. My mum's sister comes to help when she can.
I am struggling as I feel I am relatively young to be caring for someone with dementia and there is little support out there for people like me I've looked for local support groups but they are aimed towards carers in their 50s and 60s.
I wanted to let off steam and develop a support network hence why I am here.
Words of advice etc welcomed xx
Apologies for typos I am on the train typing this on my phone.
I am new to Talking Point. Bit of background I am 32 and have been caring in some form for my mum with vascular dementia since she was diagnosed 4.5 years ago. Mum is now 65 years old.
When she was diagnosed she was living with my Dad in Luton. He sadly passed away in October 2014 suddenly. Five days later I have birth to my son. 2 weeks after giving birth my mum moved in with me and and stayed with my son, partner and I for 9 months I.e. my maternity leave from work.
During this time we cleared out and sold the family home for 30 years of living there and settled her into an assisted living flat with carers 5 minutes from us.
Mum has deteriorated and I'm not sure how long she can stay there but she will remain there for the time being.
I work full time in a demanding job, travel over 3 hours a day, care for my son and visit mum most nights doing things the carers either having done and haven't noticed. They are not dementia trained.
I am exhausted and emotionally drained.
My partner and I have limited support . His mum lives far away and cares for her dad. My brother lives in India. My mum's sister comes to help when she can.
I am struggling as I feel I am relatively young to be caring for someone with dementia and there is little support out there for people like me I've looked for local support groups but they are aimed towards carers in their 50s and 60s.
I wanted to let off steam and develop a support network hence why I am here.
Words of advice etc welcomed xx
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