Dear Norman, Kaybe, Michelle et al, It upsets me much more when my husband doesn't recognise our daughters or grandchildren than myself, because I feel for them and don't know how much it hurts them. I am with him all the time and know in my heart that it is just a temporary lapse (sometimes longer, sometimes only momentary), and just like a cloud it will pass. He would have made such a wonderful grandad, he was always joking, laughing and clowing with our girls ....... I am touched by the way the little'uns (aged almost 4 and almost 6) accept him as he is, and have learnt to be tactful about his odd ways (and about some of the things they would get told off for themselves!). They are both so wise, and very kind and caring! Sadly, as my husband's carer, I am unable to be the sort of Grandma I would like to be to them - I don't have the freedom to be spontaeous, to take them on any adventures, or to have them for messy days or giggly sleepovers, but that's as much my loss as theirs.