I am quite new to this forum, and already feel supported and understood. I am amazed at the loving kindness that I see shown on every page by caregivers. Your patience, resilience, strength are an inspiration to me as I start down this difficult road.
I am not sure I will rise to the challenge with as much love as you show. And the phrase that someone used, something 'we are all doing our best', resonates for me. I think I'm looking for some reassurance here that I shouldn't be beating myself up for not being 'good' enough.
At this stage, and I have to reiterate that my husband has not been diagnosed yet, I am already afraid that I won't be able to hold it together for too long. Part of my problem is that I have no income of my own, no PoA, and am not resident in the USA, where my husband is resident. We were going to apply for a Green Card for me; he is not capable of going through with the process. We have a business in France, and we, or at least I need to go back there to run it. His health insurance is in the USA. He has family here, and some at least are ready to help out, but they don't live close by. We have friends who are being helpful, and God bless them. God bless our children too, who are both in full-time education and not close by either. They are loving and supportive.
The peculiar (in every way!) challenge of Capgras is stretching me way beyond where I thought I could be stretched to. But I hope I'm right in believing that above all my job is to provide a calm, safe atmosphere around my husband, and intervening in any direction that I can to get him the necessary medical assessment and attention. In order to this, my priority is to somehow obtain the right to stay indefinitely in this country and then cross the other barriers as they pop up….
When I am more used to this,I hope I will find the grace and the time to answer and support others. In the meantime, wow, ladies & gentlemen, you amaze me!!!
I am not sure I will rise to the challenge with as much love as you show. And the phrase that someone used, something 'we are all doing our best', resonates for me. I think I'm looking for some reassurance here that I shouldn't be beating myself up for not being 'good' enough.
At this stage, and I have to reiterate that my husband has not been diagnosed yet, I am already afraid that I won't be able to hold it together for too long. Part of my problem is that I have no income of my own, no PoA, and am not resident in the USA, where my husband is resident. We were going to apply for a Green Card for me; he is not capable of going through with the process. We have a business in France, and we, or at least I need to go back there to run it. His health insurance is in the USA. He has family here, and some at least are ready to help out, but they don't live close by. We have friends who are being helpful, and God bless them. God bless our children too, who are both in full-time education and not close by either. They are loving and supportive.
The peculiar (in every way!) challenge of Capgras is stretching me way beyond where I thought I could be stretched to. But I hope I'm right in believing that above all my job is to provide a calm, safe atmosphere around my husband, and intervening in any direction that I can to get him the necessary medical assessment and attention. In order to this, my priority is to somehow obtain the right to stay indefinitely in this country and then cross the other barriers as they pop up….
When I am more used to this,I hope I will find the grace and the time to answer and support others. In the meantime, wow, ladies & gentlemen, you amaze me!!!
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