You all deserve a medal!

MelissaParker

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Aug 11, 2007
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I just need to say that each and everyone of you deserves a medal! Not only are you all going through stress and trauma dealing with your own difficulties and emotions but you still find the strength to give so much (goodness knows where you find it) to support and care for others who need help!

I'm absolutely honoured to have found you and to be connected with you. You are all saints. I take my hat off to you all. YOU ARE ALL AMAZING and never forget that!!!!!!

Melissa
 

Skye

Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
17,000
SW Scotland
MelissaParker said:
I'm absolutely honoured to have found you and to be connected with you. You are all saints. I take my hat off to you all. YOU ARE ALL AMAZING and never forget that!!!!!!
Melissa, thank you for that, it's lovely that you feel that way.

But I for one am no saint, and I think most members would say the same. We all have days when we cry and think we can't cope any more; days when we get angry with the ones we most care for; days when we rant and rave about the unfairness of it all, the unfairness of the system, the uncaring attitude of SWs and hospital nurses.

Then we come on TP, and people comfort us, offer advice, virtual hugs, even a joke. And that makes the bad day so much better, because we have friends who understand.

We all want the best possible care for our loved ones, and for all people who have Alzheimer's. Individually, we struggle. But when we all pull together we're a formidable team.

Thank you for joining us.

Love,
 

mocha

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Feb 17, 2006
176
86
Lancs, England
No Saints here Melissa,

You've got to understand that the very thing we are doing on TP is what helps us to cope.
I for one come on every day and join in if I want to "STICK MY OAR IN"

Our Virtual friends are amongst the best ones we've got.

Feel free to join in anytime. :D

Cheers Aileen
 

lizzie2596

Registered User
Jul 3, 2007
91
Hi Melissa

What you have found here is a mutual support society.

When we are having a bad day we can write a post about it, therapeutic in itself. We then get replies from people who truly understand and it helps to put it all into perspective and get advice/support/sympathy about specific problems. I know that it has always made me feel so much better and able to keep going.

The other side of it is to be able to offer the advice/support/sympathy to others and make them feel better. This is also a positive experience and makes me feel better about myself. I call that a win/win situation!

Liz x
 

BeckyJan

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Nov 28, 2005
18,972
Derbyshire
the very thing we are doing on TP is what helps us to cope
No I am not a saint - far from it.

Melissa, TP is a way of opening up and sharing problems, some jokes and alot of sympathy. I do hope you keep 'popping in' and sharing with us. The lovely thing is you do not need to post unless you want to but before long you feel very much part of the 'family'.

Take care Best wishes Beckyjan
 

Margarita

Registered User
Feb 17, 2006
10,824
london
Thanks for your kind words but can I swop my medal for a weeks respite care?
Dick you post always make me smile lol :D

Could I swap mine for a all inclusive round the world cruse in 80 days , mind you would have to work out , if 80 day would take up all my entitlement of 8 weeks respite a year , take it all in one go :)

thanks for saying that Melissa , even thought we could call ourself TP Angels like THE FILM Charles Angels :D, just that that they more then 3
 

Gill W

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Jan 31, 2007
190
Co. Durham
And such shall you have, Beckyjan!

I think everyone on here does a fantastic job of caring for their loved ones, I do sometimes wonder where all the stamina comes from. If you could bottle it and sell it, I think we'd all be buying it in 5 gallon drums, wouldn't we?!

I do agree that everyone should give themselves a pat on the back for everything they do, especially through the hard times where you feel like you least deserve it. Like when you raise your eyes skywards, grit your teeth, swear under your breath, and when you grab the nearest cushion and scream into it as hard as you can! (God, that's therapeutic, has anyone ever tried it!?!)

Here's to TP.

Gill
xx
 

barraf

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Mar 27, 2004
308
Huddersfield
You all deserve a medal

swear under your breath
Gill you do deserve a medal if you can keep your swearing under your breath.

Mellisa none of us are saints, it is a combination of love, duty and sheer bloody mindedness that keeps most of us going, helped along by logging on to TP. Glad you joined us, stay and keep posting.

Cheers Frank
 

Skye

Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
17,000
SW Scotland
Gill W said:
and when you grab the nearest cushion and scream into it as hard as you can! (God, that's therapeutic, has anyone ever tried it!?!)
I'll have to try that one, Gill.

I used to drive the car along a country road, and scream and scream as I was driving along. Can't do that any more because I can't leave John. The cushion might be an alternative!

Love,
 

Margarita

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Feb 17, 2006
10,824
london
grab the nearest cushion and scream into it as hard as you can! (God, that's therapeutic, has anyone ever tried it!?!)
Never done that , but have sobbed my eyes out into one , but screaming will singing my heart out in concert , is the nearest I came to screaming :D thank god they was loads of people , because my singing is just no good .

singing alone to really upbeat gospel music also does the trick
 

Cliff

Registered User
Jun 29, 2007
777
North Wales
Oh Melissa,

Your comments are very kind, but the reality is that we become carers in our own ways.

Even though Dee is well into the Alzheimers confusion we still cuddle and laugh and that makes up for the tiredness and the frustrations. We're ordinary people who've been landed with this situation.

Coming here to TP, allows us to realise how lucky we are with our own problems and how to enjoy an hour with people with similar or worse problems.

Good to hear from you

Love, Cliff

PS I don't scream but locking the toilet door and staring at the carpet does me the world of good.
 
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Kate P

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Jul 6, 2007
565
Merseyside
I've often thought that with our collective talent for compassion and creative problem solving, not to mention exceptional organisational and forward planning skills we should over throw the government and run the country - I nominate Brucie as PM as he seems to have a never ending supply of energy!!:D

I have to say finding ways to relieve tension/anger is quite the challenge. While dealing with mum's illness and having a monumental bout of postnatal depression I'm afraid mine got took out on the doors in the house all of which now don't work properly.:eek:

Thankfully, I've found new ways to deal with it now - my husband says when we have another baby he's going to get me a punch bag just to be on the safe side!!:D
 

Skye

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Aug 29, 2006
17,000
SW Scotland
Kate P said:
I've often thought that with our collective talent for compassion and creative problem solving, not to mention exceptional organisational and forward planning skills we should over throw the government and run the country - I nominate Brucie as PM as he seems to have a never ending supply of energy!!:D
Perhaps we should have a Carers Party at the next election? Perhaps not, though. Would you like to deal with all those political know-alls?:eek:

Thankfully, I've found new ways to deal with it now - my husband says when we have another baby he's going to get me a punch bag just to be on the safe side!!:D
I'm not surprised you need a punch bag, post-natal depression on top of everything else?

When's the baby due? I'm not sure if you've said, or if I've forgotten.
 

Kate P

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Jul 6, 2007
565
Merseyside
Ah you've not slipped Hazel - I'm not yet - keep thinking about it but I don't have a good history - lost my first, second born two months early weighing 2 pounds, not to mention a spectacular bout of PND - I wonder how well I'll cope with it on top of everything else.

I'd need lots of rest and little stress and it doesn't really come with the territory does it?

How crazy is that? Dementia is even controlling my family plans???:eek:
 
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Skye

Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
17,000
SW Scotland
Kate, you poor thing. You've had so much to cope with.

I hope you find some solutions to your parents' problems soon, and then can decide whether you want another baby. That in itself must be a hard decision to make.

Lots of love and hugs,