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You’ve got to laugh....

CardiffGirlInEssex

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Oct 6, 2018
153
Been visiting my mum (PWD) and took her to the audiology clinic, which was very busy. She has told me in the past about how, when I was very small and we went into town on the old Routemaster bus, we’d have to sit at the front because otherwise I’d be commenting loudly on what I thought about the ladies’ hats (this was in the 1960s when most older ladies wore hats). Well, now I know where I got that from, she was holding forth with her opinions on every outfit that crossed her line of sight!! Fortunately not in a loud voice and we were at the hearing aid clinic!!

Then last night, as she was enumerating all the bits of her that don’t work as well as they used to, she said, “I expect you’re finding the same now you’re in your 70s.”. No mum, I said, I’m only 56....
 

Dimpsy

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Sep 2, 2019
1,199
My mum, always the model of politeness, now points out anyone who is on the 'large side', both on TV and - much worse - in person. It's as if the dementia has wiped away all her inhibitions, she would never have commented so freely in the BD days.
 

CardiffGirlInEssex

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Oct 6, 2018
153
My mum, always the model of politeness, now points out anyone who is on the 'large side', both on TV and - much worse - in person. It's as if the dementia has wiped away all her inhibitions, she would never have commented so freely in the BD days.
Yes, that's it exactly.
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
742
Yorkshire
Its good you can see the funny side as its so hard to sometimes. I often can't at the time but sometimes do afterwards.
Mum has asked me a couple of time how come I don't have a bus pass like her? Last time I found it funny and said "I know I look rough mum but I'm only 47 I'm not a pensioner yet". To which she replied "Oh I thought you were older than me" :eek::(
 

Lynmax

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Nov 1, 2016
376
My mum said to a stranger in the queue next to her that I could not possibly be her daughter as I was far to old and wrinkly!

She certainly has lost the politeness filter and makes comments about every overweight person she sees - I do wonder what she says about me as I am certainly on the large ( more like obese) size! Luckily she only says these things when we are in the car - for now!

Her most embarrassing habit is joining in other people's conversations at neighbouring table when we are out having lunch.
 

Rosserk

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Jul 9, 2019
394
My mum, always the model of politeness, now points out anyone who is on the 'large side', both on TV and - much worse - in person. It's as if the dementia has wiped away all her inhibitions, she would never have commented so freely in the BD days.

My mum does exactly the same! People don’t even have to be that large and she’s commenting on how fat they are! She will say look at the size of her (word beginning with A) ! I want to crawl away and hide! She also has no perception of her own size, she will say I’ve lost loads of weight haven’t I? She’s a size 16 and hasn’t lost an inch but she thinks she’s a size ten! I think she sees herself 50 years ago when she looks in the mirror which is sad but I can’t help but smile!
 

CardiffGirlInEssex

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Oct 6, 2018
153
It's obviously a lot more common than I realised. Good to know it's not only me! I think it's a bit like reverting to early life, as small children will just say what they are thinking.
 

Helly68

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Mar 12, 2018
560
When I turned up at Mummy's CH the other day, she announced in her carrying drama-school voice "You are FAT". Lovely. How are you Mummy?
And then, the other day, she said to me "You are very determined. I don't know where you get that from" - everyone in the Unit then fell about laughing - because they know her - Mummy included!
 

Jale

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Jul 9, 2018
413
This is why Talking Point is a life saver for me. As a kid I remember being asked by our next door neighbour if I liked a painting she had bought. Mum had always drummed into us that we should always tell the truth, well I did and suffice to say I got slapped legs off mum for saying that no I didn't like the picture.:(

Fast forward to present time, and Mum who is now in a nursing home "always" tells the truth - well as she sees it anyway. People have fat bellies/backsides (she doesn't say backside, but I'm sure you can probably work out the word;)), peoples clothes don't suit them, children are ugly/misbehaved etc etc. Unfortunately she is not quiet about it and I seem to spend a lot of time wishing the floor would open up and swallow me or her up. Fortunately most people in the home are in a similar situation and there are a lot of OMG moments between us. If you didn't laugh you would cry, but it is helpful to know that there others who are going through the same even if we don't think of that at the time
 

Donkeyshere

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May 25, 2016
466
channel islands
My step daughter bought her new partner round the other day and she asked the MIL what she thought of him - shes never been tactful but is worse now and said "he's a bit of gump isn't he!" Needless to say she did not stay to discuss it any further!
 

DesperateofDevon

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Jul 7, 2019
2,658
My Mum has lost the filter years ago, I think she thinks she’s in her 20’s as she always wants to try on my daughters clothes, or my converse trainers!!
As for political correctness.... just let the floor open up & swallow me!
 

Starting on a journey

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Jul 9, 2019
132
What filter? We were waiting for the lift in our local shopping centre with three very large ladies (using that term wisely), mum says " I don't want to go in the lift with those heifers". Oh dear, I immediately found a notice for an evac chair and showed her it and how it worked. When the ladies had gone I told mum not to say such things as it wasn't nice. Needless to say I wasted my breath. I hope they didn't hear but I think they must have.
 

DesperateofDevon

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Jul 7, 2019
2,658
What filter? We were waiting for the lift in our local shopping centre with three very large ladies (using that term wisely), mum says " I don't want to go in the lift with those heifers". Oh dear, I immediately found a notice for an evac chair and showed her it and how it worked. When the ladies had gone I told mum not to say such things as it wasn't nice. Needless to say I wasted my breath. I hope they didn't hear but I think they must have.
I know I shouldn’t but I’m laughing!
Sorry xx
 

Pete1

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Jul 16, 2019
593
My Dad came out with several classics whilst in residential care. One occasion the carers came running to see me to share the anecdote. They had an entertainer in playing the keyboard and singing (my Dad always enjoyed Jazz etc) this chap started with White Cliffs of Dover, which at the end received a polite round of applause, apart from Dad who shouted out 'What a load of ******* old B*******' . the carer said ironically they were all thinking it but Dad actually said it!
 

northumbrian_k

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Mar 2, 2017
969
Newcastle
I'm laughing too because one has to. When I was a little boy my Dad was mortified when I commented loudly about a passing man who was rather short in stature. I know that feeling well as my wife now offers her unflattering opinions of everyone to anyone who cares to listen or is within hearing range. Her former day support worker was called 'fat' every time that she came to the house. In her care home she can be quite rude about the staff and fellow residents in one breath then charming to them in another. When we are out somewhere I have found that most people are remarkably tolerant even when she says the most outrageous things about them. It is just part of the disease and one of the easier things to get used to.
 

DesperateofDevon

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Jul 7, 2019
2,658
Dad played a blinder the other day in the care home, for a man who rarely speaks now clear as a bell”she’s got some colour on her” “holiday?”

Ah no Dad she’s from Gambia.

pleased to say the lovely carer laughed out loud & joked about it, meanwhile ground just swallow me up!!please!!