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YES!!!! Mum had a bath!

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Chook, Oct 15, 2015.

  1. Chook

    Chook Registered User

    Jun 14, 2013
    238
    Westcountry
    I don't think I could post this anywhere else and have people understand.

    Mum's not had a bath for weeks and was really honking. The care home had said they'd tried everything.

    After what felt like an hour I finally conned her into just putting her feet in with her top still on and then quickly lowered the chair. She soon took her top off when it started getting wet, although I was quite happy for her to leave it on to be honest.

    She thoroughly enjoyed it and even told her bunny that he should have a bath because it was quite nice really!

    I feel like I've achieved the impossible! I gave mum a bath!!!

    Phew
     
  2. jeany123

    jeany123 Registered User

    Mar 24, 2012
    19,036
    Durham
    I understand, well done, you should be proud of handling it so well xx
     
  3. Mrsbusy

    Mrsbusy Registered User

    Aug 15, 2015
    356
    Well done you! My mum was the same, I think she forgot what the word bath meant to be honest.

    Watch out bunny!
     
  4. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,815
    UK
    Chook, you have achieved the impossible, well done. fingers crossed the care home took note on how you did it.
     
  5. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,289
    SW London
    Hallelujah! Well done indeed - do reward yourself with chocolate or whatever else you fancy!
     
  6. Pear trees

    Pear trees Registered User

    Jan 25, 2015
    441
    Well done, we all understand how you feel!
     
  7. beverrino

    beverrino Registered User

    Jan 12, 2015
    1,111
    oh what an achievement! that was so well handled
     
  8. loveahug

    loveahug Registered User

    Nov 28, 2012
    1,071
    Moved to Leicester
    wow, I am sooo impressed, that's brilliant!!!
     
  9. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,731
    Congratulations xx :)
     
  10. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,962
    Brixham Devon
    Chook-we understand because we KNOW that is a real achievement. Well done indeed

    Love

    Lyn T XX
     
  11. Maldives13

    Maldives13 Registered User

    Feb 4, 2014
    164
    Very well done. Think I'm going to have a similar issue! Care home are saying Mum won't have shower. I'm going to offer my services next week to see if that will make them try a bit harder!! I think it's down to being short staffed and not having same ones give her a shower. Well done - you have given me hope x
     
  12. Essie

    Essie Registered User

    Feb 11, 2015
    563
    Well done Chook!! And yes, we do all understand - do enjoy all those lovely feelings - happiness, relief, achievement -you've earned it! :D
     
  13. Suzanna1969

    Suzanna1969 Registered User

    Mar 28, 2015
    346
    Essex
    Mum's taxi will be there in ten minutes, please work your magic!

    Cheers! :D
     
  14. Redpoppy

    Redpoppy Registered User

    Jul 31, 2012
    268
    Glamorgan s.wales
    I can use persuasion to get my husband to have a shower( but only twice a week) but he always looks and smells clean. However we have numerous confrontations before I can have him agree to a haircut! I tried cutting his hair myself but made such a mess of It he HAD to be taken to the barber to sort it out.
     
  15. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    Well done Chook, you handled that beautifully! :)
     
  16. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,992
    Suffolk
  17. daisydi

    daisydi Registered User

    Feb 25, 2015
    255
    Norfolk
    Well done. Feels good doesn't it. My mum's care home have got my mum to shower every day now. This is a major achievement as she wouldnt shower at all a few months ago. So much nicer when there are no nasty whiffs about!
     
  18. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,154
    Toronto, Canada
    Great work. I had a little chuckle when I read your title. I could relate so well - Mum went through a couple of long and aromatic phases.
     
  19. Chook

    Chook Registered User

    Jun 14, 2013
    238
    Westcountry

    Top tip, wear cool clothes :-D I was wearing a jumper and nearly melted!

    It's very hard, the carers don't have time to spend patiently waiting like I did today. I think the instructions were too complicated too. Mum didn't understand get in the bath but when I said put your feet in that seemed like an easier thing to comprehend. If you imagine what getting in the bath entails, it's actually quite a complicated set of actions.

    Good luck!

    Chook x
     
  20. Chook

    Chook Registered User

    Jun 14, 2013
    238
    Westcountry
    Thank you all for your replies. I rewarded myself with a nice bar of choc and a glass of....... milk, ha ha!

    I'm sorry for you who struggle with this too. I was nearly in tears when mum just kept refusing. It's just so frustrating and heartbreaking.

    Good luck everyone x x
     

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