Mum is in a care home and has advanced dementia. Everything goes in her mouth. She chokes on her food so has to have it mushed up. Despite all this I would love to think of something to give her for Xmas. She has no need of more clothes or toiletries either. Any bright ideas anyone - or should I just admit defeat!
Xmas presents?
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Ive got two lovely red and white throws bought at the last two Christmases in M&S. They are easily washable, soft, warm and cheerful. My husband likes one wrapped round his legs when he's in his armchair.
My grandson aged 11 wraps himself up in them too when he's here. I've been tempted to give him one of them as he likes them so much but then it wouldn't be here for him next time he visits.
My grandson aged 11 wraps himself up in them too when he's here. I've been tempted to give him one of them as he likes them so much but then it wouldn't be here for him next time he visits.
When my mother was in late stages and didn't need any clothes, etc., I just used to get some soft fruit jellies (M&S ones are nice) or some easy to eat chocolate, like Aero, or both.
She had to be fed them, but did seem to enjoy them.
You feel you must get them SOMEthjng, since it's Christmas, but once a person is past being aware that it's Christmas anyway, I don't think there's any need to think you have to get a 'proper' present, if there's nothing they need or can use or appreciate.
She had to be fed them, but did seem to enjoy them.
You feel you must get them SOMEthjng, since it's Christmas, but once a person is past being aware that it's Christmas anyway, I don't think there's any need to think you have to get a 'proper' present, if there's nothing they need or can use or appreciate.
Does she enjoy music? Perhaps a CD of the type of music she enjoys that staff could play for her?
Yes, chocs and the like might be good or we also give my M-in-L smellies, soaps, bubble bath etc.
I have previously bought Dad a snowscene bubble thing you turn upside down and shake, and a wind up musical box. Neither would have been his thing pre dementia and probably limited interest but as well as chocs and biscuits I feel it works well.
Such a dilemma for you! I know you said that your mum doesn't need toiletries, but how about some lovely handcream so that she can have a hand/foot massage?
