Hi everyone. tried a new tactic this morning. When Susan wakes up I put her dressing gown on and took her down stairs (for 45 mins) to compose her mind. Used to get her to use toilet, wash, and dress. Taking her down (still will not take a breakfast or juice) gives her time to "lose" some confussion I think. We then went up and the rest was fairly easy. Susan has moved on from not wanting to be "here" to dieing. She now uses the word dying. She told me she really wants to die. She spoke to my mum (83 thought you'd like to know that) and said she wants to die. (I over-heard). Is that moving on ? ? Can anyone suggest tasks that some may be able to perform, give some worth to her life. I do try, but the most easiest of jobs she cannot do. I think the best I can come up with is for Susan to do a task (withme) if you follow me. Appointment eye hospital this afternoon. I am worried. cris just to add a little more. Susan wants me to put her in a home. Very insistant. Cannot / willnot do that. We have the summer to look forward to.