Hello all,
Thanks in advance for your help and input on this. If you've read my previous posts, you will know that my husband's step-mum passed away just days after Christmas.
She had Vascular Dementia, but was refusing help, refusing treatment and of course-forgetting her blood pressure meds.
A week before Christmas she had a fall and hurt her head. She had started having a few falls (which we suspect would have been small strokes potentially) and not knowing why she fell.
The week before Christmas she called and was weeping with head pain from her fall. She first went to her GP, where she said she was much better. He told her to go home as long as she had family there with her. She lied-she didn't. Later that night the headache came back and we called an ambulance, with the DEEP hope that they would see the state of her, her house and her health.
We awaited word the next morning on how she was getting on in hospital and what the head scan showed. But, no-she was home!! She was sent home. She told the hospital she felt much better, they figured she was fine and NEVER scanned her head.
A week later she was gone.
An inquest is now being held as she died from a subdural haematoma.
There is more to this story, starting with me sending her GP letters last April, begging for some information and help for a struggling step-mum. We also sent the DVLA an anonymous request. All of that and contact with Social Services-still....nothing.
Funnily enough, we received a call from Social Services a couple of days ago, after they had told us (yes they said this!) "Well, we cannot simply go contacting people simply because they are forgetful. All of us are forgetful sometimes".
We had the sickening privilege of telling them not to bother, she's dead.
So now, we are awaiting her to be released for the services. But, I would also really like to know how I proceed to make sure we follow-up regarding this needless death.
Does anyone have any links or ideas where we start? Sure, I understand that maybe it will be difficult and it won't bring her back. But, I cannot, in all good conscience , just leave it. I don't want this to ever happen to anyone else, not ever. I want to be sure we are heard on behalf of step mum, who will never have a chance.
As always, thank you kindly for your support. We have only made it through this horrible time with the kindness and support of people like you.
Cheers,
Benrese
Thanks in advance for your help and input on this. If you've read my previous posts, you will know that my husband's step-mum passed away just days after Christmas.
She had Vascular Dementia, but was refusing help, refusing treatment and of course-forgetting her blood pressure meds.
A week before Christmas she had a fall and hurt her head. She had started having a few falls (which we suspect would have been small strokes potentially) and not knowing why she fell.
The week before Christmas she called and was weeping with head pain from her fall. She first went to her GP, where she said she was much better. He told her to go home as long as she had family there with her. She lied-she didn't. Later that night the headache came back and we called an ambulance, with the DEEP hope that they would see the state of her, her house and her health.
We awaited word the next morning on how she was getting on in hospital and what the head scan showed. But, no-she was home!! She was sent home. She told the hospital she felt much better, they figured she was fine and NEVER scanned her head.
A week later she was gone.
An inquest is now being held as she died from a subdural haematoma.
There is more to this story, starting with me sending her GP letters last April, begging for some information and help for a struggling step-mum. We also sent the DVLA an anonymous request. All of that and contact with Social Services-still....nothing.
Funnily enough, we received a call from Social Services a couple of days ago, after they had told us (yes they said this!) "Well, we cannot simply go contacting people simply because they are forgetful. All of us are forgetful sometimes".
We had the sickening privilege of telling them not to bother, she's dead.
So now, we are awaiting her to be released for the services. But, I would also really like to know how I proceed to make sure we follow-up regarding this needless death.
Does anyone have any links or ideas where we start? Sure, I understand that maybe it will be difficult and it won't bring her back. But, I cannot, in all good conscience , just leave it. I don't want this to ever happen to anyone else, not ever. I want to be sure we are heard on behalf of step mum, who will never have a chance.
As always, thank you kindly for your support. We have only made it through this horrible time with the kindness and support of people like you.
Cheers,
Benrese