I'm a first timer here. I'm not a full time carer for my mum who has suffered from this dreadful condition for about 5 years. She lives alone but has her best friend to look after her every day. He is in his 80's. Caring for my mum has been his life over this period and this has gradually taking its toll on him. He is dog tired and is finally admitting that he finds it difficult to cope as my mum becomes less and less capable. She has Social Services carers to come in twice a day to help her dress and wash. My sister and I keep in touch with both of them daily and visit as often as possible but we both live hours away. We were always told that by the time she reached the point of having to go into 24 hour care, she would be so unaware of what was going on that this, her greatest fear, would mean nothing to her. Instead, while night time wandering in the street is forcing the issue, she is still intensely resistant to - and scared stiff about - being 'put away'. The professionals tell us that we must think about what she needs and not what she wants. We cannot find night time care, the only other safe option. Although we always knew this time would come, it is, without doubt, the most traumatic time yet and I just feel so desperately sorry for her. I will stay with her tonight but I somehow know this wil be the last time I see her in her own home. Does anybody have any clue how we can get through this transition in a way that will make it easy for her?