MiL forgot who hubby was yesterday, you aren't my son, you aren't my carer, I don't want you in my house...Nasty words to a lovely man but we know its the illness, what worried me is she was scared and he was upset that he was the one scaring her. He is her carer, she lives with us in a purpose built annexe - I work full time and support the family, and I've been drained by how bad she is (the invisibles never help us). I was able to calm her down but she told me a tall tale about what had happened, was furious with hubby and wanted him out??? I sat with her for 2 hours ( I try not to as it upsets me how negative she is about what I cook, that things are being stolen, all the usual that seems to hit me personally but I know shouldn't) and it was all calm eventually. After 2.5 years of no break, no holidays, no nights out his useless brother is having her for a week ( at our house) so we can have a belated honeymoon, and then he will see how hard it is - and yet I'm worried that he won't deal with it well - my kids are both staying home that week to help ( not their grandma but I'm proud of how much they have stepped up). I don't like this life, but I signed up for it, wasn't sure how the illness would take MiL but I love her, but we're exhausted - she isn't sleeping now, we're afraid she's afraid...this illness sucks...we are so drained..sorry