We had a best interest meeting last week & all agreed Mum should go into a care home.Then asked the question, if she went I to care would her quality of life be better, again it was agreed it would. This Wednesday it goes to the board for a final decision.
I came back last Saturday for 2 weeks & have been staying with Mum, it's been stressful at time but absolutely wonderful all at the same time. Mums been losing weight, goes out wondering through the day, not knowing where she has been but luckily always finds her way back home, tonight though I'm sat her crying & now actually wondering is it the right decision for my Mum or just because I'm not here & would she be going into a care home if I was here.
Mum has no idea about this & it was decided that, as she listens to her GP, she is the one that will tell Mum. She seems happy that one here which make this even more unbearable & I feel I'm letting Mum down. I love Mum so much & can't bare the thought of her being somewhere with strangers & not in her own place, I feel what a horrible daughter I am & that I've badly let her down.
I've been looking at care homes by myself & with my daughter & have found a lovely home near my daughter but another home not far from where she lives. Both of them, the staff seem really caring & the residents seems happy, well as happy as they can be. The one near my daughter may have a place, the one near Mums has a waiting list. Gosh, I'm just rambling now but I know I've got to make a decision soon but it's the worse decision I've had to make in a long long time & it's not one I'm looking forward to making
When Mum was I respite she didn't want to go out & it was said at the meeting that they thought Mum only went out because she is lonely by herself at home, In my heart, I know it will be better for Mum, I love her so much & only want what's best for her.
Thank you for listening.
Lima
I came back last Saturday for 2 weeks & have been staying with Mum, it's been stressful at time but absolutely wonderful all at the same time. Mums been losing weight, goes out wondering through the day, not knowing where she has been but luckily always finds her way back home, tonight though I'm sat her crying & now actually wondering is it the right decision for my Mum or just because I'm not here & would she be going into a care home if I was here.
Mum has no idea about this & it was decided that, as she listens to her GP, she is the one that will tell Mum. She seems happy that one here which make this even more unbearable & I feel I'm letting Mum down. I love Mum so much & can't bare the thought of her being somewhere with strangers & not in her own place, I feel what a horrible daughter I am & that I've badly let her down.
I've been looking at care homes by myself & with my daughter & have found a lovely home near my daughter but another home not far from where she lives. Both of them, the staff seem really caring & the residents seems happy, well as happy as they can be. The one near my daughter may have a place, the one near Mums has a waiting list. Gosh, I'm just rambling now but I know I've got to make a decision soon but it's the worse decision I've had to make in a long long time & it's not one I'm looking forward to making
When Mum was I respite she didn't want to go out & it was said at the meeting that they thought Mum only went out because she is lonely by herself at home, In my heart, I know it will be better for Mum, I love her so much & only want what's best for her.
Thank you for listening.
Lima