My Mum is 86 and has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She had been suffering for two or three years prior to the diagnosis, but my Dad had been covering up for her and would not accept any help. Sadly he died in October last year and we have been getting help and care in place for Mum since then.
I am an only child and live 100 miles from Mum. I am also still working part time. Mum has four hours of care per day helping her with food preparation,shopping etc as she is physically extremely fit. However, all professionals involved with her are now concerned for her safety and a meeting has been arranged for this week. I am very anxious because Mum's social worker is talking about respite in a care home as one of the possibile outcomes of this meeting. I have not had time to investigate care homes where Mum lives yet but I hope to visit some this week. My fear is that Mum will absolutely refuse to go for respite care. What happens then? Can anybody make her go? Mum loves to walk every day and can find her way home from the shops to her house but if she was to be in a home, I am worried that they will not be able to accommodate her going out for a walk every day and then it will seem as if she is imprisoned. I have so many confused thoughts going round in my head all the time.
Mum has rung me twice today (and she has said this on other occasions too) saying that she wants to "go home" as she doesn't want to live at her house any more. By this she means the house where she lived as a child. I simply don't know how to answer this but I have been saying it's not possible (because it isn't!) but this is just very upsetting for her. Mum is fine if you speak to her in the mornings, but later in the day she just gets more and more sad and lonely.
It would be good to hear other people's comments who are in the same situation.
Thank you.
I am an only child and live 100 miles from Mum. I am also still working part time. Mum has four hours of care per day helping her with food preparation,shopping etc as she is physically extremely fit. However, all professionals involved with her are now concerned for her safety and a meeting has been arranged for this week. I am very anxious because Mum's social worker is talking about respite in a care home as one of the possibile outcomes of this meeting. I have not had time to investigate care homes where Mum lives yet but I hope to visit some this week. My fear is that Mum will absolutely refuse to go for respite care. What happens then? Can anybody make her go? Mum loves to walk every day and can find her way home from the shops to her house but if she was to be in a home, I am worried that they will not be able to accommodate her going out for a walk every day and then it will seem as if she is imprisoned. I have so many confused thoughts going round in my head all the time.
Mum has rung me twice today (and she has said this on other occasions too) saying that she wants to "go home" as she doesn't want to live at her house any more. By this she means the house where she lived as a child. I simply don't know how to answer this but I have been saying it's not possible (because it isn't!) but this is just very upsetting for her. Mum is fine if you speak to her in the mornings, but later in the day she just gets more and more sad and lonely.
It would be good to hear other people's comments who are in the same situation.
Thank you.