Worried

[kstevenson]

My wife gave birth to our daughter kerianne on thursday 13th april at 6.22am

I am happy, but still worrying quite abit about my problems.

I went to the doctors on wednesday and to be honest i was very disappointed with the response from the GP, he more or less dismissed everything, she just said that it is probably nothing and that i should try not to worry.

I am still having difficulty understand people sometimes and thinking that they have said something that they have not said, but i am going to see the nurse this week to have my ears sringed so i don't know whether that will make any difference.

I still don't feel with it and sometimes my mind just goes blank, i am still worried about having dementia and i really hope that i have not got it, also the GP did little to reassure me and also obviously there has been no investigation from my GP.

 

[Amy]

Congatulations to all the family, that is wonderful news. Now you must focus on supporting your wife, and caring for your daughter and step children.
Best wishes,
Amy

 

[connie]

How wonderful, a new baby. Congratulations to you and your wife.
I am sure the other members of the family are so proud.
Take care now, love Connie

 

[Margarita]

kstevenson I may be of no help ,but I went though a stage like your going though thinking I had AD ,and wanted a brain scan & was also on was on ant depressions

Not trying to Under mind you or anything ,but when you say your mind go blank that what was happening to me ,then I read up all about stress on the internet & your be amazed what stress can do to you .

 

[gerrie ley]

Dementia

my opinion is that your problem lies with your nerves. I could go on and on about this subject as I suffered from nerves when I was in my 40s I am willing to help you if you want me to do so.I went to several shrinks but in the end I was given a book written by Carnegie that helped better than anything else.Yes Ihad panic attacks I had three very serious ones where you feel your head will explode and you cannot breath.Over the years I had scores of minor ones. Carnegie wrote identify your problem in your mind and then think of the worst that could happen.Then in your mind think what do to improve on the worst

 

[kstevenson]

I am still very concerned, and i am convinced that i have some kind of dementia even though it is very rare for someone my age to develop it.

Yet again my wife has done that mini mental state examination test on me and yet again i scored the full 30 points out of 30.

Obviously my GP not doing anything or investigating my problem has not made me feel any reassurance and the GP did not turn round and even say what could be causing my problems!

Who on here really thinks that i could have some kind of dementia, i would like everyone to answer honestly.

Obviously i really really hope that i do not have dementia as i just want to get on with my life and help bring up my first child and the other kids and do everything else.

Thanks for reading, it is much appreciated.

 

[Amy]

Hiya,
I think it is very unlikely that you have dementia. I think that it is probably a combination of changing your dose of anti depressants, stress of caring for a relatively new wife and step children and a new baby.
The tests that you have taken have shown that your memory is functioning very well and does not indicate dementia in any way.
I think that you should print off a copy of this thread, make an appointment again with your GP, and ask your wife to accompany you to the appointment.
Your constant worrying cannot be doing you nor your wife nor your relationship any good. With a copy of this thread, and your wife to support you, maybe your doctor will better understand the anxiety that this is causing you.
Best wishes,
Amy

 

[Brucie]

get on with my life and help bring up my first child and the other kids and do everything else.

DO IT



No-one on TP is qualified to tell you whether or not you have dementia. I'd say you have not - in my experience, people who have dementia don't go on about it all the time, they withdraw into themselves.

I suggest you ask your GP to get you a referral. To be frank, most GPs are not qualified in this area either

 

[kstevenson]

Hiya,
I think it is very unlikely that you have dementia. I think that it is probably a combination of changing your dose of anti depressants, stress of caring for a relatively new wife and step children and a new baby.
The tests that you have taken have shown that your memory is functioning very well and does not indicate dementia in any way.
I think that you should print off a copy of this thread, make an appointment again with your GP, and ask your wife to accompany you to the appointment.
Your constant worrying cannot be doing you nor your wife nor your relationship any good. With a copy of this thread, and your wife to support you, maybe your doctor will better understand the anxiety that this is causing you.
Best wishes,
Amy

Hi Amy,

Thanks for your reply, i really hope you are right and that i do not have dementia.
My memory is not that good but there are other things that worry me more, such as my thinking ability is not very good at all, that seems worse than my memory and it really bugs me and worrys me.

You are right when you say it does not do the relationship between me and my wife any good.

Obviously i am very grateful for the support that i recieve on here and you can understand why i do not want dementia especially at my age.

 

[kstevenson]

DO IT



No-one on TP is qualified to tell you whether or not you have dementia. I'd say you have not - in my experience, people who have dementia don't go on about it all the time, they withdraw into themselves.

I suggest you ask your GP to get you a referral. To be frank, most GPs are not qualified in this area either

I will do it brucie don't you worry about that.

Is it true that people with dementia do not even realise that anything is wrong with them and it is close relatives and friends who notice symptoms first? and the person with dementia always denies having anything wrong with them?

There is no need to be funny with me though, i am only 24 and i am geniunely concerned that i could have dementia, i also know that no-one on here is qualified to tell me whether i have dementia or not but i just wanted to know people's opinion's.

 

[connie]

Hi, for what my opinion is worth, you are right when you say that it is usually friends and family who notice things first.

I, personally, do not think you have dementia, but the only person who can overcome this present episode in your life is yourself.

Sorry to be so blunt, but you did ask. Warmest regards, Connie

 

[kstevenson]

Hi, for what my opinion is worth, you are right when you say that it is usually friends and family who notice things first.

I, personally, do not think you have dementia, but the only person who can overcome this present episode in your life is yourself.

Sorry to be so blunt, but you did ask. Warmest regards, Connie

Hi,

Thanks for your reply connie, your opinion is very welcome ans your advice is much appreciated.

I am glad that you do not think that i have dementia, i hope i have not got it.

But my mum and dad came up at the weekend to met their grand daughter and they never said anything and my wife thinks i am still the same as when she met me a year and ahalf ago but i'm not so sure.

 

[noelphobic]

I will do it brucie don't you worry about that.

There is no need to be funny with me though, i am only 24 and i am geniunely concerned that i could have dementia, i also know that no-one on here is qualified to tell me whether i have dementia or not but i just wanted to know people's opinion's.

I don't think Brucie is being funny with you. You have asked for people to give you their honest opinions and that is what he has done.

 

[Tender Face]

K,

I have read some of your posts over the last few weeks, but been reluctant to make any response. There are many people on this site far more able than me to make comment and I admit I have simply stood back and admired and learnt.….. (sorry!)

I can offer little, except a personal and honest opinion about what little I know of your circumstances and anxiety, and to share anything I think may help.

As many posts here do, some things strike a personal chord with one person when they may not do with others. For me, when I have had chance (late tonight) to read this thread ‘CF’ jumped out at me. Now, please forgive me, if I have this completely wrong, but to be 24 years old and be step-dad to two children with CF takes some doing (being a parent can be tough enough, don’t get me wrong!) but to care for your wife, three children and now a wonderful fourth…(congratulations, by the way!) that’s stress enough for anyone (even if it’s ‘nice stress’ and you love them all to bits!). (And yes, there is a humungous history of CF in my in-laws’ family and I have come to appreciate how hard it can hit).

I don’t know if you will have watched any of the recent TV programmes and followed any of the threads here which commented on them. I hugely identified with a Channel4 programme (Stairlift to Heaven) where the carer felt he was himself suffering from some debilitating illness (physical in his case) which changed from day to day. I know that feeling of ‘Oh, my God, this can’t be happening to me, I’ve got too many people relying on me to look after them,’ ‘If I am ill, who’ll look after them?’ kinda scenarios…. and then some days, I can feel overwhelmed and almost wish I was the one everyone was scurrying around… but then reality kicks in….

Just an idea, and I have to concur with all the advice you have already been given here that GP is absolutely ‘first and foremost’ (but you don’t seem happy with the response there).

If there are two children with CF in the family then there MUST be a social worker around…. and they have some duty to care for the family ‘holistically’…..What support are you and your wife getting with the care for them? You both must be physically exhausted – as well as delighted - with the demands of a new baby and the physical and mental demands of caring for other children with such complex problems….

The Health Visitors/SWs are there for YOU and your wife, as well as the children. TALK to them. They may be able to open other doors for the help you feel you need…..

Love to all the family, Tender Face, x

 

[kstevenson]

I have not posted on here for awhile, things are still the same, sometimes i think that it is getting worse.

Last night i forgot for a minute how to take my inhalers properly as i messed it up when i did it and i have been taking inhalers for 21 years so of course that really worried me.

I wonder if taking anti-depressants can make your memory bad and cause problems? i have been on them for almost 2 years now.

My wife does not seem to agree with me at all that i have some kind of dementia, she dismisses it instantly, mainly because of my age i think, she seems to think that i am being very stupid by thinking that i have some kind of brain disease.

Something else that worries me is that my lips seem to do a funny thing now and again where they sort of get ready to whistle or something, it only happens now and again.

My memory is definatley not very good, i do have quite alot of short-term memory lapses and my thinking ability seems quite poor as well.

Add that to sometimes having poor concentration and restlessness, also sometimes when i look in the corner of my eye i jump because i think someone is there but i am not convinced that someone is there, is this an hallucination?

I would not put good money on it that i dont think that i have some kind of dementia as i am almost convinced that i do have a serious problem and have some kind of dementia.

But as brucie said awhile back most people with some kind of dementia do not think there is anything wrong with them and deny it, but in my case i am convinced that something is wrong with me, does this mean that i do not have dementia?

Thanks for reading and i look forward to some replies.

 

[dmc]

hello kstevenson
firstly can i say congrats on your new daughter
I havent posted to you before, mainly as i dont think ive enough experience, to advise, but i have read the replies youve been getting and there has been some very good advice there.
can i just ask, have you been checked out for epilepsy as my best friend, has petit mals(i think thats how you spell it) which makes her lose concentration for a few seconds and she forgets everything she has just said and i have to remind her.
Her concentration is very poor, but she's certainly not got dementia, there could be 1001 different reasons why your feeling the way you are, stress can cause your mind to play funny tricks on you, perhaps you need to change your antidepressant.
I myself have had to take antidepressants becouse of anxiety, i have what they call "white coat syndrome" every time i enter a hospital doctors or dentist my blood pressure soars through the roof, i dont know why i have no control over it but its just another symptom of stress.

In my opinion, i really dont think you've got dementia, but i do think your under a lot of stress which can make your body play all sorts of tricks on you, go back to your doctor get a referal to see your local CPN go along and have a chat with them you'd be suprised how just by talking to someone outside your family can help.

take time and read back over the replies youve had on TP all these people have been dealing with this problem for years, and from what i can see no one thinks you have dementia!

sorry not much advice.
try and get yourself sorted youve got a wife and family there who need you very much.

 

[kstevenson]

Thanks for your reply DMC, it is much appreciated.

I got an email today from the yorkshire alzheimers association branch and they have said to me that it is virtually unknown for someone in their 20's to develop dementia and that the chances of me having dementia are very very very low, almost 1%, so hopefully that is true, that does reassure me alittle i must admit.

 

[Whocares]

Hi

I dont want to be dismissive but if you have dementia then so do I and everyone else in my family. I think everyone on here is right and that your life is very full at the moment. I think modern day living is very stressful and the fact that you have more than most people to deal with doesnt help.

I forget things with alarming regularity and so do my work colleagues and family. If we try to put things is perspective there are millions of really important things we have to remember, and at times of stress, I think the brain prioritises some of the not so important thingsand they "fall out of the box" and , the seconds it takes to "pick them up" are what you are worrying about, which is giving your brain something else to think about so ,somthing less important will "fall out of the box" and so on.

Either that, or you are ill, Im a positive thinker so Im going with my theory for myself and think you should too

 

[dmc]

hi kstevenson,
i saw this online and thought you could try it?
hope it helps!!

Try this test to see if you suffer from health anxiety.
How to score your answers

One point = ‘not at all'

Two points = ‘a little bit'

Three points = ‘moderately'

Four points = ‘quite a bit'

Five points = ‘a great deal'


Do you worry a lot about your health?
Do you think there is something seriously wrong with your body?
Is it hard for you to forget about yourself and think about all sorts of other things?
If you feel ill and someone tells you that you are looking better, do you feel annoyed?
Do you find that you are often aware of various things happening in your body?
Are you bothered by many aches and pains?
Are you afraid of illness?
Do you worry about your health more than most people?
Do you get the feeling that people aren't taking your illnesses seriously enough?
Is it hard for you to believe the doctor when they tell you there's nothing for you to worry about?
Do you often worry about the possibility that you have a serious illness?
If a disease is bought to your attention (through TV or newspapers, for example) do you worry about getting it yourself?
Do you find that you are bothered by many different symptoms?
Do you often have the symptoms of a very serious disease?

If your score is high (32-55) it's worth talking to your GP about whether you're worrying too much about your health.

 

[Tender Face]

hello kstevenson
i have what they call "white coat syndrome" every time i enter a hospital doctors or dentist my blood pressure soars through the roof, i dont know why i have no control over it but its just another symptom of stress.

Brilliant, dmc! I never heard it called that before - but had similar myself some years ago - when I knew I was going for blood pressure check it was always sky high - when I went for some other 'routine' appoinment and the doc/nurse just 'happened' to check it - it was 'normal'. It was obviously the stress itself of the test and its result which caused it to soar? And presumably without that stress/anticipation it was OK.....

'K' (can I call you that?), can I ask why you have been on inhalers since age 3? That kind of long-term medication must mean you are monitored closely by your medics. Or could that medication be having side-effects - have reached the stage of not being effective for whatever cause it was first prescribed? Have you had to change inhalers/medication recently? Worth checking out the last time that was reviewed properly by your GP and/or specialist (assuming you have one)? (And if you haven't suggest to your GP you perhaps should have?)

Sorry, not meaning to bombard you with questions, and don't expect you to answer unless you want to share - just trying to trigger other thought processes for you which may help.

Any progress with the social worker?

Love, TF, x