We moved my dad into a care home 5 days ago. I thought it would be the best thing for him as he was becoming increasingly confused especially in the evenings, thinking it was the morning and getting up in the night. He lived alone but I live close by and used to ring him in the mornings and go round in the evenings.
He used to go to a day care centre at the home once a week and he really enjoyed it so I thought he would settle in well to the care home as he would have company and activities to do. How wrong I was.
He seems to be getting more and more wound up as the days go on, he wants to go home and can't stand the fact that he can't get out. I have tried telling him that he needs to stay there now as that is where he lives and it is much nicer than being at home on his own and they can look after him but of course he says he can look after himself he doesn't need people to look after him.
I am worried we have moved him there too soon and we should have just carried on as we were and crossed this bridge further down the line when he was worse. I thought he would have a better quality of life at the care home but he hates it. I just want to bring him home but am now worried about how he will settle back at home, I just don't know what to do for the best. I know we will have to go through this again at some point if I bring him home but maybe it will not be as bad for him further down the line.
My husband has tried to get me to sit down and go through the options, we can modify the house so he stays down stairs this will reduce the risk of falls but doesn't help with the confusion. I am going to ring to talk to someone about maybe having a night sitter but I am assuming that will be expensive.
I just don't know what to do for the best.
He used to go to a day care centre at the home once a week and he really enjoyed it so I thought he would settle in well to the care home as he would have company and activities to do. How wrong I was.
He seems to be getting more and more wound up as the days go on, he wants to go home and can't stand the fact that he can't get out. I have tried telling him that he needs to stay there now as that is where he lives and it is much nicer than being at home on his own and they can look after him but of course he says he can look after himself he doesn't need people to look after him.
I am worried we have moved him there too soon and we should have just carried on as we were and crossed this bridge further down the line when he was worse. I thought he would have a better quality of life at the care home but he hates it. I just want to bring him home but am now worried about how he will settle back at home, I just don't know what to do for the best. I know we will have to go through this again at some point if I bring him home but maybe it will not be as bad for him further down the line.
My husband has tried to get me to sit down and go through the options, we can modify the house so he stays down stairs this will reduce the risk of falls but doesn't help with the confusion. I am going to ring to talk to someone about maybe having a night sitter but I am assuming that will be expensive.
I just don't know what to do for the best.