Hi Everyone, I’m brand new to this so bare with me! I’m 32 and have two small children, my Grandad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago. To me he is the same Grandad just a little repetitive with things he says which now seems the norm. My Nana is his main carer and they both still live in their own home, my mum is also a carer to both as my Nana has many health issues herself. Sometimes it gets too much for Mum to cope with aswell, she is single and works and does her best to do everything for them. My Nana does an amazing job and I totally idolise her but I think things are obviously taking it’s toll. She’s making comments like she’s had enough, she can’t cope so my mum asks what kind of help we need to get ie cleaner, carer and all she says is I don’t know. I know she’s a good old fashioned wife that just wants to look after her husband like back in the day but she just can’t. My Grandad isn’t completely gone, (sorry that sounds terrible) I always say he’s 80% grandad and 20% Alzheimer’s, because if you didn’t know you would never think he has it. We are all scared to let people help (I think we’ve all seen too many horrible programmes about bad carers). Putting grandad in home is completely out of the question at this stage. We have recently got carers through social services that just come in the morning to help him with his clothes but all he keeps doing is making sure he is done before they arrive, like it’s his mission! So we are worried they will stop before long. We’ve told him he has to wait and all he keeps saying is they are late I’m not waiting for them ( they are not late they can just come anytime between 7.30 and 10) which means my Nana is still having to struggle to help him then the carers just come in write in the book and leave, I know it’s not their fault, but you can’t get through to him. My nana needs a break and me and my mum are taking her out twice a week but when we arrive back to my grandparents house my grandad is in a right state, crying because he didn’t know where she had gone and usually wet himself so now we feel we can’t go out but this is just cruel for my Nana she needs a break now and then. We just don’t know what to do. My grandad refuses to go out anymore mainly because he doesn’t want a accident down below (something that is a constant daily battle for my Nana to clean up) he is a very private person. Sorry I’ve gone on just needed to release.