Dad has been in hospital for a few weeks. He ended up there due to the fact that he had 4 falls in 7 days. A brief history of his condition..diabetic(should take insulin 3 times a day but forgets),alchoholic(at least a bottle of vodka a day),5 toes amputated due to gangrine, unable to cook for himself,incontinent, unable to wash himself.Clearly suffering from dementia. I had been calling in twice a day, 7 days a week to help as much as possible but it was all getting difficult as I wrk full time and have a family of my own. Anyway Dad has been in and out of hospital for the last four or five years with all of these problems. We were really releived this time when the nursing staff said a meeting had been held and taking into account our feelings they all felt a nursing home was the answer for Dad. Ths Sister from the ward confirmed this and then I also had a call from the SS discharge team to say the same, in fact they even gave me the name of a nursing home where there is a bed available. However the lady from SS called me yesterday to say that she had spoken with Dad and that he seemed quite lucid and he was not happy about going into a nursing home. She also said he wanted to talk to his Brother about it first and could I contact his Brother, who Dad told her lives in Ireland, as it may help with his decision. I explained that Dad's Brother died in 1993 She then said oh it's OK your Dad is being assessed(again)later today! I called in the afternoon and was told they were having a meeting about Dad, when I spoke to the ward last night the update was...Family are keen for nursing home, patient not keen, patient wants care at home, mental state to be assessed to see if he is able to make this decision. I am so worried that they will send him home with a care package...we have been there before and after a couple of days he refuses the care and we end up back to square one! I really don't know what to do next!