My husband is in a care home and is very aggressive when it comes to his personal care - its takes 3 of them to shower him and he punches, kicks, tries to bite, swears and even spits when they take his clothes off but once the water is on him he mostly washes himself and is calmed down by the time he has the towels. When he was at home he often went for days in the same clothes until I summoned up the patience to persuade him to shower. I had to show him how to wash his hair and prompted him to wash and the whole process sometimes took 2 hours. I realise the care home don't have that sort of time - they have tried just one male carer rather than girls or women but that doesn't work either Now the care home have called for an assessment and the doctor wants to put him on sulpiride and I am so worried as it is an anti psychotic drug and I have lost so much of him already and I am concerned what effect it will have on him. I am still able to take him out for walks with our dog and visits to the pub or theatre, and I am worried this drug will change him more than the dementia He is on memantine and has had lorazapan before he is showered and that didnt have any effect, and basically he is a very private and proud man and he feels very threatened by lots of people taking his clothes off, and I dont think an anti psychotic drug will stop him feeling threatened but could really change him for the worse. Has anyone else had experience of this drug and of its effects?