hi thanks again for advice regarding respite, my mam due to go into respite tomorrow and i,m so worried, we were offered this because of late she seemed to be getting worse and it was becoming stressful for my dad and myself(she lives alone but we have cared for her for 6 years), it seemed like the answer to our prayers but when i took her for a visit on saturday she was very suspicious and when she saw the othet people in the day room she said "she would rather be dead than be in there" i know my dad needs the break but i,m churned up because i just feel its going go pear shaped, I,m struggling to find the right answer is it worth upsetting our loved one,s by trying to make them do something they dislike or, well i,m just not sure what the or is, we make such important decisions about their lives its frightening. thanks to tp for listening.