Hay everyone, Iv been reading these forums for ages now and iv finally made myself join! It makes me happy in a funny way that i can see other people have the same problems and issues. My problem is that i dont really have anyone to talk to about my Nans condition! I find it hard to talk to my Mum and Dad as they are so involved with my Nans care and when i try to talk to my Grandad who is my Nans primary carer he always changes the subject. Im at university away from home at the moment so its not to often i get back to see my Nan. She was heavily involved in my life when i was young and everything i have ever done was to please her and my Grandad. The last time i saw her was Christmas. I knew she had got worse from the last time i had seen her but nothing could have prepared me for what i was about to witness. The once quiet, affectionate, lovely old lady who wouldnt say boo to a goose had turned into a screaming mess who was now swearing and regualy hitting my Grandad. Its now easter and im home again so the regular visit to us is happening as i write!! She has deteriated beyong belief and nobody is coping with it especially my Grandad. My Mum is constantly crying as seeing her Mum in this state and not knowing anyones name is obviously hard for her. My Dad does all he can to help but what more can he do than to support my mum! The Nursing home converstaion had happened many times but my Grandad, a very proud man wont allow it. The problem with this is that caring for my Nan is literally killing him. Hes always tired and never wants anyone to help him. What can i do or say to change his mind on the matter? Money isnt really an issue and never will be. Im sorry for banging on and giving you all the full story its just i dont like to share this with my friends, and havent spoke at any length to anyone else about it either. Im frigtend they wont understand! What can i do to help my parents through this and especially what can i do about my Grandad. Its almost as if im more worried about him than my Nan! Thank you for listening to m an giving me the oppotunity to get stuff of my chest, i just hope it all makes sense and that others can relate to it/me?!!