1. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Oh Hazel my dear, can so empathise with your situation.

    Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in and he will feel easier in himself. The chest infection seems newer, as you posted about his eye before.

    Is that any better? I wonder sometimes just how much more our loved ones have to bear. Life is so cruel.

    Sending love n'hugs. Stay strong.
     
  2. ROSEANN

    ROSEANN Registered User

    Oct 1, 2006
    909
    staffordshire
    Dear Hazel
    Sorry to hear John is not well and hope he picks up soon.

    The lack of mobility is what caused my husbands illness but what can you do about it?.

    Sending much love to you both.
    Roseann
     
  3. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Thanks, Connie and Roseann.

    The eyes are getting better, he's had the drops since Friday. The chest infection only started last night, and they acted very quickly, so hopefully it will clear.

    Thanks for the support, everyone, you're wonderful.

    Love,
     
  4. Cliff

    Cliff Registered User

    Jun 29, 2007
    777
    North Wales
    Dear Hazel,

    Shattered to read your news about John.

    Dee was tiny but impossible to adjust her position so can understand the problem.

    Thoughts are with you,

    Love to you both,
     
  5. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Thank you Cliff.

    The downs seem so much worse when you've had a good spell, don't they.

    Hope you're feeling not too bad, it's good to have you back.

    Love,
     
  6. Helen33

    Helen33 Registered User

    Jul 20, 2008
    14,697
    Dear Hazel

    I've just logged in and want to say that I send lots of love and hope that because John has been clear of infection for a little while that he might recover more quickly from this. Fingers crossed.

    I always worry about Alan when he's not eating properly because I know it's so out of character.

    It was nice to read the posts and here and see the wonderful support you have.

    Love
     
  7. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    16,192
    Toronto, Canada
    I know what you mean - Mum also eats everything & quickly too. The staff love feeding her. So to have a person who loves their food not eating well is really distressing.

    Hope the antibiotics kick in soon and that you have another (longer) period of calm.

    Love,
     
  8. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    There is never any way to feel at peace, is there?

    We can't ever assume things are stable, or going to be stable.

    Very sorry to hear of this. Take care.
     
  9. Mameeskye

    Mameeskye Registered User

    Aug 9, 2007
    1,669
    NZ
    HI Hazel

    Just saw your post. Hope that John picks up today once the AB get to work. At least this time he is not contending with the MRSA at the same time and he has been well for some time so hopefully has some reserves with which to fight this.

    Lack of mobility brings so many problems.

    ((((Hugs))) to you both and hoping for a better day today

    Love

    Mameeskye
     
  10. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Thank you Helen, Joanne, Bruce and Mameeskye, I appreciate the support.
    I didn't get the dreaded 0800 phone call, so the night can't have been too bad.

    Hopefully I'll have better news this afternoon.

    Spot on, Bruce. You have a plateau for a while, and settle into a routine, even start to enjoy life again, then wham! You're into another nosedive.

    Let's hope we can pull out of this one before we hit the ground!
     
  11. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    PS My financial advisor rang last week and arranged to come this afternoon for my annual review.

    I told him I didn't really want to know at the moment, but he said it's in the contract! He said I couldn't bury my head in the sand.

    Of all the times, when I'm spending a fortune on John's care, and the markets are at rock bottom.

    I do keep an eye on things, and I know roughly where I stand, but I know he'll want me to take less income until things pick up. I don't want to!

    I wish I could bury my head in the sand!:(
     
  12. Sam Iam

    Sam Iam Registered User

    Sep 29, 2008
    3,151
    WEST OF THE MOON
    you are a brave lady

    :)Hi Hazel I just joined last night and I have spent the evening with your posts they are very honest and John has got a wonderful Lady on his side.

    Sam Iam
     
  13. Lynne

    Lynne Registered User

    Jun 3, 2005
    3,433
    Suffolk,England
    I hope there is better news of John today, and that he has his appetite back.

    Now-now Hazel, YOU are in charge here, YOU are the paying client, it is YOUR money being manipulated here; HE is Mr 'the customer is always right'.
    Don't forget that.
     
  14. fearful fiona

    fearful fiona Registered User

    Apr 19, 2007
    723
    London
    Dear Hazel,

    Sorry about this setback, hope John is better soon. I think about you both often because there is a gentleman in Mum's home who looks just like John from the photos you send (i.e. he is very good looking) and his wife seems a lot like you, so caring and loving.

    Financial advisors, yuck! Don't we all feel we could bury our heads in the sand, but as Lynne says, you're the customer.

    Hope you had better news about John this afternoon,

    Love,
    F.
     
  15. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Thank you Lynne and Fifi.

    Sam Iam, welcome to TP, and thank you for reading my posts. I hope you'll soon feel among friends.

    John was not good at lunch time, wouldn't eat at all. Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon.

    Financial advisor was OK, actually said I could have more income if I needed it!!!! Our money has gone down, of course, but not as much as I feared. He's very good -- and likes to tell me so!

    He'd hardly gone out the door when the phone rang -- the chairman of one of the committeees I'm on. I've been having an email 'discussion' with him for the last few days, and he wants to come and see me this afternoon. Oh well, may as well get all the stress out of the way at once!

    I think he thought I was the 'token carer'! He knows different now!:eek:

    Why do I let myself in for these things?
     
  16. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Thank goodness too Hazel. Know where you are coming from.
    Why do people assume that we will not stand up and speak our corner?. Hope all goes well.

    Pray that the antibiotics kick in now, and that John will make a steady recovery. Thinking of you.
     
  17. ROSEANN

    ROSEANN Registered User

    Oct 1, 2006
    909
    staffordshire
    Dear Hazel

    You let yourself in for these things because you care.

    Love Roseann.
     
  18. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi folks, John was a lot better tonight. I got some kisses, and he ate his tea without any problem. Then he went straight to sleep, but that's normal.

    I'm not sure how my meeting went, but I did manage to get some points across. He's going to arrange for me to talk to the consultant.

    Am I stupid, or would you assume that Integrated Care Pathways should mean that care agencies should work together for the benefit of the patient?

    Not so, apparently! I received last week a copy of a report to the Scottish Parliament on what we had achieved in our area. It was a complete fudge!

    At least he knows now I'm not a 'token carer'. We'll see!

    What a day! Early night is called for, I think.
     
  19. Lynne

    Lynne Registered User

    Jun 3, 2005
    3,433
    Suffolk,England
    Pleased your day was more up-beat all round, Hazel.

    Get a good night's sleep.
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  20. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Hello Hazel:

    You have had a hectic day :eek: - but I am pleased to hear that John seems ok and is eating well again. Well done - it seems he enjoyed his kisses, his food and then drifted into contented sleep.

    I think a little whisky and an early night is called for :):)

    Love Jan
     

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