My mum has vascular dementia she has had it 10 years and dose not remember things we tell her my dad has cancer and has not been coping well he’s been in and out of hospital for the last 12months I was staying at night so he could get some rest as she was having falls and didn’t remember my dad was ill and expected my dad to do everything for her we pup mum into respite 8 weeks ago with a view to staying permanently and she is now getting upset and wanting to come home always crying saying she should be at home looking after him but we have tried to explain she can’t do the cooking and cleaning as she is also not mobile but is adamant she is coming home and the home are saying she is getting de stressed and we are having to go to the home to Carmel her down I don’t know what to do she has a social worker who said your husband is not well and you are best to stay hear but she gets upset saying I need to be with him