Hi Everyone.i have been a member on here for a while, but I have never written anything.But thought I would today.Just be nice to get your views.
My 90 year old dad has had alzheimers for over three years.(thinking about it I think he has had it longer but it was easier to deal with).I live with him and my son(who has social anxiety disorder and hardly goes out of his bedroom).Mainly due to the fact now because is scared of his granddad shouting at him for stealing his money/curtain hooks/catapult/hoe so many things.As dad has got worse in the last few months with his paranoia and constant mood swings, my son has got increasingly down and depressed.Things kicked off two weeks ago really badly and Josh just lost it with Grandad and so did I..Nothing physical.but we both ended up shouting at dad..Basically we were all screaming at each other..and resolving nothing.As, as you know someone with alzheimers is always right in whatever they are saying..
Anyway, to cut a long story short, the next day I rang dads social worker and said if something isn't done I have got that low im thinking of taking my own life.And funny after that things started moving(up till now he hasn't reached the criteria,whatever that is).She managed to get respite for dad for two weeks at a local care home..He has settled really well..And they are lovely to him.
Things are soo much better at home.My son has relaxed,he seems happierI have relaxed, my eczema has cleared up,Im sleeping better.Im not so zonked out at work.We both can laugh again.So I rang his social worker and asked her if dad could stay in the care home for full time.Has he is happy, he doesn't talk about taking his own life now, which he was constantly saying at home.and he is getting 24/7 care which I think he needs..Well she is giving him another week in respite and then he has to come home.I don't think he is fit enough now, they have upped his parnonia drugs, which is making him wobbly and he has fallen twice since being in the care home.She said he has behaved really well to.and has had no vicious outbursts.Basically making me feel like a complete fraud.And to put the cherry on the cake.He had a mental health assessment today and got 23/30..better then he has had for the last two years..How the hell that happened I don't know..I saw him last night and he could hardly string a sentence together..Does anybody else think the MH assessments are rubbish?.They need to do a practical assessment as he struggles to do even minor things like switch lights on now and open doors..I know funding has a lot to do with Social Services not being able to offer CH places to dementia patients until they are really ill.(I think dad is by the way).but what about the carers rights..I suppose I should be grateful for three weeks respite .Alot of people don't even get that do they.
Sorry for the rant.there is so many people worse off them me on here.Just feel so fed up and worn out..xxx
My 90 year old dad has had alzheimers for over three years.(thinking about it I think he has had it longer but it was easier to deal with).I live with him and my son(who has social anxiety disorder and hardly goes out of his bedroom).Mainly due to the fact now because is scared of his granddad shouting at him for stealing his money/curtain hooks/catapult/hoe so many things.As dad has got worse in the last few months with his paranoia and constant mood swings, my son has got increasingly down and depressed.Things kicked off two weeks ago really badly and Josh just lost it with Grandad and so did I..Nothing physical.but we both ended up shouting at dad..Basically we were all screaming at each other..and resolving nothing.As, as you know someone with alzheimers is always right in whatever they are saying..
Anyway, to cut a long story short, the next day I rang dads social worker and said if something isn't done I have got that low im thinking of taking my own life.And funny after that things started moving(up till now he hasn't reached the criteria,whatever that is).She managed to get respite for dad for two weeks at a local care home..He has settled really well..And they are lovely to him.
Things are soo much better at home.My son has relaxed,he seems happierI have relaxed, my eczema has cleared up,Im sleeping better.Im not so zonked out at work.We both can laugh again.So I rang his social worker and asked her if dad could stay in the care home for full time.Has he is happy, he doesn't talk about taking his own life now, which he was constantly saying at home.and he is getting 24/7 care which I think he needs..Well she is giving him another week in respite and then he has to come home.I don't think he is fit enough now, they have upped his parnonia drugs, which is making him wobbly and he has fallen twice since being in the care home.She said he has behaved really well to.and has had no vicious outbursts.Basically making me feel like a complete fraud.And to put the cherry on the cake.He had a mental health assessment today and got 23/30..better then he has had for the last two years..How the hell that happened I don't know..I saw him last night and he could hardly string a sentence together..Does anybody else think the MH assessments are rubbish?.They need to do a practical assessment as he struggles to do even minor things like switch lights on now and open doors..I know funding has a lot to do with Social Services not being able to offer CH places to dementia patients until they are really ill.(I think dad is by the way).but what about the carers rights..I suppose I should be grateful for three weeks respite .Alot of people don't even get that do they.
Sorry for the rant.there is so many people worse off them me on here.Just feel so fed up and worn out..xxx