MIL has been at SIL and BIL for a month for birthday/Christmas , they have got her state pension(only one) and AA whilst there with MIL giving the 4 of them £30 each for xmas pressies and an unknown amount towards turkey at her request. However on return yesterday when OH met SIL (OH sister/ MIL daughter) in localish town in Costa for handover OH sister said she had stopped off that morning at 9am on her way (they live 2hours plus form rendezvous) toget out MIL's pension, OH though bit odd as usuually a Monday for pension but it was bank holiday, he looked quizzical as to why she would bother to get MILpension as she was returning that morning, SIL explained she needed the money' to pay mum's bills when with us'.......?.?? OH wasn't happy but didn't want to make a fuss as MIL sister had met up in Costa too....SIL said ' oh rest of money is in mum's purse.'
When OH and MIL got home MIL hair looked like a scarecrow , no money spent there then , so I booked our hairdresser to come today, MIL always frets about payment and likes to give 'her cash' so I looked in MIL purse 60p in coppers nothing else,so I said to OH shall I get your mum's pension when I pop to Tescos so she can give bairdresser cash .... OH then told me about SIL conversation but was adamant she had said rest of cash was in his mum's purse so we checked purse, handbag, packed clothes , present bag no money, text SIL .... no reply. we tried to fathom what bills MIL could have. papers? no else but where is all rest as MIL?doesn't get any more pension until next Monday.
OH rang SIL/his sister twho siad she had 'forgot' to put moeny in MIL purse and said MiL owed for a paper bill , which can be no more than £25 , agreed to send 'some money' in a cheque to MIL ....... MIl would of got nothing if we hadn't queried it , OH and me as main carers have POA, they do not as MIL was adamant BIL was not to know her financial affairs , feel like it is theft?? will I be unreasonable to ask for a receipt for alleged bills!!? (excluding this weeks pension , MIL has 'got through" over £1000 whislt visiting SiL) neither us or them are on the breadline but they don't seem to seeits not their or ours moeny its MIL, my low opinion of them has got lower
SIL has agreed to send 'some money' with bills deducted, await to see how much...
When OH and MIL got home MIL hair looked like a scarecrow , no money spent there then , so I booked our hairdresser to come today, MIL always frets about payment and likes to give 'her cash' so I looked in MIL purse 60p in coppers nothing else,so I said to OH shall I get your mum's pension when I pop to Tescos so she can give bairdresser cash .... OH then told me about SIL conversation but was adamant she had said rest of cash was in his mum's purse so we checked purse, handbag, packed clothes , present bag no money, text SIL .... no reply. we tried to fathom what bills MIL could have. papers? no else but where is all rest as MIL?doesn't get any more pension until next Monday.
OH rang SIL/his sister twho siad she had 'forgot' to put moeny in MIL purse and said MiL owed for a paper bill , which can be no more than £25 , agreed to send 'some money' in a cheque to MIL ....... MIl would of got nothing if we hadn't queried it , OH and me as main carers have POA, they do not as MIL was adamant BIL was not to know her financial affairs , feel like it is theft?? will I be unreasonable to ask for a receipt for alleged bills!!? (excluding this weeks pension , MIL has 'got through" over £1000 whislt visiting SiL) neither us or them are on the breadline but they don't seem to seeits not their or ours moeny its MIL, my low opinion of them has got lower
SIL has agreed to send 'some money' with bills deducted, await to see how much...