My mother has been diagnosed as having vascular dementia. Her story is a long one but it seems her all consuming problem is that she has a toilet obsession. Following a fall( I think it may have been a stroke) she suddenly began obsessing about going to the toilet and needing the toilet and I cannot underestimate what I mean about this. Sometimes she is actually on the toilet and asks to be taken to the toilet just as an example. The thing is she is quite aware of her surroundings and knows she is somewhere she does not want to be and says she wants to kill herself constantly. She begs us to take her home it is truely heartrending to visit her.She recognises all her family can still answere crossword puzzles. The family are torn apart because we have had to have her looked after her in a home.We are not happy about her nursing care.We recently had to call for an ambulance to take her to hospital and is turned out she had steptoccocal pneumonia.Has anyone else experience of toilet obsessions,lack of nursing care by care homes,relatives threatening to kill themselves/wishing they were dead?.