Hello Mum been in carehome now for about 18 months, she is now prescribed antipsychotics which have calmed her down thankfully, no longer trying to escape or violent.Still asks to go home but memory so poor now that she gets confused very easily. Still recognises me and, I think my dad, they have nice outing out in the week for an hour or so, I visit and we go for cup of tea or sit in garden. Mum still only 73, and I wish she didn't need to be there. I rack my brains to see if I could have mum with me but couldn't as she still so unpredictable and needs total one to one, I have to think of my young son and husband, but it doesn't make the guilt go away. My dad couldn't cope with mum. Care home is as good as they get and being a nurse I have worked in a few, but the thought that mum is there for good now and no other option tears me apart.