I feel the need to rant a bit and maybe find out how others handle things.
Dad recently diagnosed with Vascular Dementia but on a good day he can have a reasonable conversation and present as though he certainly has enough capacity for the consultant to advise me to see a solicitor to seek POA (which he wouldn't have suggested if Dad had no capacity) so I feel we are not at the stage to seek Court of Protection.
Dad has had numerous professionals discuss POA with him and I even produced a solicitor to sit down and chat with him but he is never going to sign, not that he doesn't trust me as I have 3rd party access to banks etc and deal with everything anyway.
Dad is quite comfortably off but won't touch his "capital". He keeps saying he has no income and never gets any money from anywhere (gets 2 pensions).
I live in his house so I can't sell it or move, gave up my job to care for him, work a few hours a week on very low wage plus Carers Allowance.
Dad is like a Yorkshireman crossed with a Scotsman (no offence intended) and today when the boiler broke and I asked him to sign a cheque, the usual response was "Can't you pay for it- you're working and I don't get anything from anywhere?!".
Not keen on seeking POA anyway as would need joint POA with helicopter brother and I would be answering to him then as well/instead and it would be worse.
I know I could use his bank account but he has told me not to take anything out of it so I don't feel able to. It seems as though I am meant to manage a family home plus caring off thin air. Brother wouldn't get involved . I can sit down and explain dad's finances are ok and he is happy but five minutes later he has forgotten all this and is worrying about money being spent all over again.
Thanks for listening- rant over
Dad recently diagnosed with Vascular Dementia but on a good day he can have a reasonable conversation and present as though he certainly has enough capacity for the consultant to advise me to see a solicitor to seek POA (which he wouldn't have suggested if Dad had no capacity) so I feel we are not at the stage to seek Court of Protection.
Dad has had numerous professionals discuss POA with him and I even produced a solicitor to sit down and chat with him but he is never going to sign, not that he doesn't trust me as I have 3rd party access to banks etc and deal with everything anyway.
Dad is quite comfortably off but won't touch his "capital". He keeps saying he has no income and never gets any money from anywhere (gets 2 pensions).
I live in his house so I can't sell it or move, gave up my job to care for him, work a few hours a week on very low wage plus Carers Allowance.
Dad is like a Yorkshireman crossed with a Scotsman (no offence intended) and today when the boiler broke and I asked him to sign a cheque, the usual response was "Can't you pay for it- you're working and I don't get anything from anywhere?!".
Not keen on seeking POA anyway as would need joint POA with helicopter brother and I would be answering to him then as well/instead and it would be worse.
I know I could use his bank account but he has told me not to take anything out of it so I don't feel able to. It seems as though I am meant to manage a family home plus caring off thin air. Brother wouldn't get involved . I can sit down and explain dad's finances are ok and he is happy but five minutes later he has forgotten all this and is worrying about money being spent all over again.
Thanks for listening- rant over