My mother has dementia. My father died in March and my siblings and I are agonizing over whether to tell my mother or not. She is being cared for in a home, is unable to walk and has had dementia for several years. We feel that she would be unable to process the information, but at the moment she is aware in some way that she has not seen dad for a while and it is agonizing for her. She is in a private hell sometimes and believes that, because her beloved husband does not come to see her any more, he no longer loves her. She sobs uncontrollably and we are unable to console her. Then, as is often the case, during the next visit she is calm and asking about dad but not in a distressed way. We feel if we tell her we will have to keep repeating it over and over which would cause her distress over and over again. We would be very grateful for any thoughts from anyone who has been through a similar experience. Thank you.