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Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by LadyA, Jul 29, 2015.
lady A , what can I say ...nothing, I wish I knew what to say but we understand ((((hugggsss)))))
Sending love and strength.
As Chick says, just because we know what is coming doesn't make the reality any easier to bear. Hope William is peaceful. Love G
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Why do the laundry?. Because it's there!.... And while you are doing that, you are doing something.
Lady A, I'm lying here in my bed while OH walks the dog,looking out ( for once) at blue skies and green hills . We are away in Scotland for the weekend, but my thoughts and prayers are with you and William while you wait for what is to come. love to you both...Maureen x x
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I hope you managed some sleep LadyA. I'm thinking of you and William and hoping his release will be soon.
Lyn T XX
I hope that both you and William had a peaceful night Lady A, wishing you strength for the days ahead, we will all be here for you xxxx
My thoughts & prayers are with you xx
I dreamed that William came home from the nursing home for the weekend. And he could walk around. And he spent the weekend eating salad sandwiches because he was starving (there's a bit of a cucumber glut!) and could go to the loo by himself. And I was thinking in the dream - "Maybe it's just that they aren't giving him the right food, what he likes, in the nursing home. That's all is wrong. I'll have to tell them to give him salad sandwiches." Took a couple of minutes after I woke up to realise that it had just been a dream. Apart from anything else, William hated salad sandwiches.
It just shows how much he is on your mind.
Oh ladyA I am sorry.
Isn't it strange that we can know something logically and yet still not be able to believe it and how our innermost feelings come out in odd dreams.
I hope your William remains peaceful today.
Lady A, when Pete was very ill in his CH I posted that I had a dream where Pete didn't have AD-he had 'locked in syndrome'! He was perfectly aware that 'I' had put him in a CH and could understand everything what was being said-he just couldn't communicate.
I think this type of dream is fairly common for Carers; there is so much emotion swirling round at these times it's bound to impact on our sleep/dreams-and yes, it does take a while to realise that it was just a dream not reality.
Wishing you peace and strength
Lyn T XX
Yes, Lyn, I remember you posting that. I suppose it is bound to happen that we dream about them at this time.
I'm off to the nursing home now. This afternoon, there's a gathering of my extended family at a cousin's house. Uncles, aunts, cousins. We had decided at my godmother's funeral in April (or was it May?) that we really had to have get togethers that weren't at funerals - because with the older generation dying out, we would be meeting less often, and eventually not at all. Which would be a shame. So we wanted to have a happy gathering, not at a funeral. And today's the day of the first such get together. Good thing we didn't postpone it because a couple of cousins can't make it! I'm not sure if I can face it or not though. I don't want to face the inevitable "How's William?" question. But my mum is depending on me to bring her. We'll see. Might go for a short while.
I got a black dress for the funeral. Could only get a short sleeve, so I got a black cardi with a cream edging too, cos we've had such a cold Summer, I haven't worn a short sleeve top at all!
So sorry you are having to go through this, LadyA.
My thoughts, prayers and love are with you and William at this very difficult time. x
William seemed quite lucid at times today. He can't talk, but certainly seemed very aware of me, and his eyes were clear at times. The suction machine was beside his bed, so they must have been clearing his throat & mouth.
I did stop in to the family gathering at my cousin's house after all, just for half an hour or so. I felt I better get something to eat anyway, and I may as well do it there. Yes, I cried all over people - first one of my cousins and then my brother. But I did eat some sausages and a burger (years and years since I ate a burger!) and then a small piece of pavlova. Feel utterly, utterly sick now! And completely exhausted. So I'm going to have another cup of "Night Time" tea and go to bed early.
Thinking of you Lady A , sleep well x
Wishing you, and William, a peaceful night LadyA.
Just caught up with how things are with you, and am sending loving thoughts and prayers to support you both as these days slowly go by. I was glad to read about how well the staff are doing their bit, and that your dear William is at ease. I hope you find a way of relaxing a bit, and getting some sleep, and hope you have a peaceful night.
Thinking of you Lady A hope you have a peaceful sleep sending you hugs xx
Wishing you a peaceful night LadyA and as always, wishing you strength.